Family Dynamics...and the 'syndrome'?

Mum of 3 boys here,

I would like to evoke the old adage…..is there a ‘syndrome’ for children?? That is my second boy is so highly emotional, my third easy going and my eldest is the good listener and helper. And I tell you if my family had all been like my eldest it would be boring. All my boys have their roles to play, and I don’t like the label of ‘youngest child syndrome’ etc. However I see that my families dynamics are each to their own roll and I do struggle with parts of this.

For example, my second child is one that likes everyone to FEEL his emotions. The other day whilst in a hardware store, I told him he could have his own little trolley as a distraction that soon turned to a nightmare and a mummy distraction. I had given him two firm warnings that he needed to stay close to me and out of peoples way. However sticking to my guns I abandoned the trolley took him up and put him in the trolley I was pushing. Then the emotions fell – with screaming, roaring and howling, he made it so everyone could feel that he was not happy. I continued to the go check out and out to the car, keeping my cool. It was a win for mummy and he did learn his lesson because when we went there again yesterday before I had even got into the car park he was telling me he was happy and he was listening. I gave him his trolley and he did a pretty (not perfect) spectacular job for a three year old.

Posted by 3xmum, 6th November 2014

3 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 26 Sep 2015
    8:00 pm
What a lovely happy family story. I enjoy reading happy stories about mums and they’re kids. It’s so uplifting to read of a normal family, enjoying each other, and your lives

- - mom57522 said
  - 26 Dec 2014
    12:10 pm
Good on you for sticking to your guns, it can be tough sometimes.

- - BellaB said
  - 08 Nov 2014
    8:36 pm
I don’t know that I agree that every first born will show certain characteristics (etc), but I do think kids tend to adopt certain roles in the family.