I survived being away from my kids and partner

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So a few months back my boss told me that I had earned a free trip to Bali with my boss and two other co-workers. While I was elated I was also petrified! At the time I was still breastfeeding my almost 2 year old and the panic set in. I had 3 months to wean my son and was also in the process of moving house. So I spoke to my partner and he was so supportive of me needing a break and what an opportunity for me to go to another country as I have always wanted to go to Bali but was so worried about leaving my 2 children. As I organized my passport and started saving forbhe holiday I weaned my son as I felt it was time for that anyway. We battled my son getting pheumonia, school went back and then it was time! The week before hand was hell! I was so excited and anxious all at the same time. I knew my kids would survive but leaving my littlest was hard as I hadn’t even left him overnight before! My daughter is 6 so she was just excited about presents but gee the anxiety was brutal! Then the day came and we left and boarded that plane. It was so nice not to be needed and demanded all the time, I got to sleep in, shop and get massages. Every now and then while shopping for presents for the kids the anxiety kicked in and the mum guilt! I just kept pushing though, the last night was the worst just wanting to cuddle my babies and tell them how much I love and missed them. I think the first and last day of a holiday are the worst for the mum guilt but it was a great break just goes to show that yes both parties miss each other but mummies we do so much and do deserve a little break every now and then and who could pass up a free holiday without the family!!

Posted by mom64463, 2nd March 2017

6 Comments

- - mom64463 said
  - 16 Mar 2017
    1:46 pm
Thank you ladies I greatly appreciate your responses I am just lucky I had a supportive family we are now planning a family trip over there within the year now time to start saving and getting passports for everyone! Sometimes you just have to stop and think no we deserve a holiday and I’m going to start working an extra day a week so we can save that days pay to afford it. I hope you all get to have a holiday soon x

- - june11 said
  - 14 Mar 2017
    9:14 pm
I know some Mums who decided they needed a break. Some had all school age children, some had younger ones. Some Mums didn’t bother to help to make sure care had been arranged for their kids even though they knew Dads weren’t able to take leave from work. I think that attitude is selfish. The Dads should have had more warning to negotiate leave and see if others would swap with them so they to be with their children full-time.

- - mom110650 said
  - 14 Mar 2017
    8:57 pm
You were so brave to go on holiday! those mumma guilts can be hard to shake sometimes but doesn’t mean they should be listened to. And how wonderful your partner had a chance to bond with the kids. Now… how to convince someone to send me to bali…

- - Bela said
  - 13 Mar 2017
    4:50 pm
What a wonderful treat. It’s always nice to be appreciated. I’m glad you were able to set your reservations aside and have a great time. You earned it

- - mom176887 said
  - 06 Mar 2017
    10:32 am
Glad you survived the holiday, massages etc!!! ….But I agree It is hard breaking a routine with family, and you do miss each other.

- - mom93821 said
  - 06 Mar 2017
    6:38 am
Thanks for sharing your travel story and for being brave and sharing all of the mixed feelings that went with your holiday. A supportive family does make a huge difference and when they are happy for you and encourage you it makes all of the difference.