It does seem strange that she will bring extra clothes and nappies,l mean who does that?

I am glad to hear you always check and pack ample amounts of what you may need. ha ha Mabye my Mum should have done that. My sister-in-law was hopeless. Sometimes they had to go home early because she didn’t pack enough bottles and formula. Weather that could change either way in the area, she would being either all thin or all thick clothes. She would complain that she didn’t have the money to buy the baby another dummy. If she slowed her smoking down for a week she would have. She had almost the whole of my brother’s pay every week. He had to put petrol in his car to go to work – no public transport and too far to walk- and a few dollars for emergencies…………We bought and had a spare supply of everything at home. If we babysat she would pack either all tops or all pants, never enough of either. We were lucky than another relative still had some baby and toddler clothes left and appreciated being given them………….
Surely your MIL can see how efficient you are in packing everything for your baby. I would get your son to speak to his Mum about it, to simply tell her she doesn’t need to do it, that both of you always make sure you have ample with you. I suggest he doesn’t do it too close to when it has just happened or you’ll probably be the “evil daughter-in-law” and bad Mum.

Sounds like a controlling type , have you spoken hub about this , if hes not worried just do your own thing and be assertive .

Neither my family nor my husbands did anything like this. So very irritating!!! Sounds a lot like my mother in law though – mine always brings tea towels, her own iron and similar items when she comes to stay with us. I hate it!!! Needless to say, we see very little of her.

I hope things have improved for you since you originally posted this story. I would expect similar behaviours in other aspects of your parenting as your child grows. Try to rise above the irritation – and good luck!

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Sounds a a little bit annoying but I think her hearts in the right place for the baby!

That is handy if she shows up to outings within extra clothes, nappies etc. they could come in handy, no matter how prepared you always are

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I hear what you are saying … does she only have sons?

Sounds like she’s a meddler and feels threatened or intimidated by you and feels the need to reassert herself on the hierarchy. There’s a good article on this site about how to deal with inlaws. You could always use it to your advantage save yourself some time and money, use her nappies etc. My mother in law didn’t change a nappy for 16mths – didn’t even offer.

nice story for read

good nice story

it s great

i think that she was only trying to be helpful but i know what you mean!

Feel very sorry for you, it is not easy, but being up front open and make a joke of it against yourself so she cant possibly take offence and you will soon find out what the motive is.

I’m a grandmother of 4 gorgeous little people & I always have on hand spare nappies, wipes & sun cream even though the Mum’s pack a bag of spare ones. I feel I’m helping them out & I have purchased these items in the beginning months to send home with them. I’m love buying clothing items for them all, & it is a Grandma’s greatest pleasure to spoil them!

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  Are your grandchildren from your daughter or son (or both)? It’s a very different relationship. I find purchasing nappies and wipes a little strange – doesn’t really spoil anyone?

Yes she does sound very annoying & would drive me crazy too. My MIL also annoys the hell out of me too. You just need to up front with her or perhaps get your husband to say something to her

I don’t get along with my inlaws either. It sounds like she is waiting for you to forget something so she can jump in and save the day. I think it’s time hubby had a word to her

hmm i think there is more to this as i think i would be grateful if my mother in law remembered stuff.
Is this her first grandchild as i know my mum was very hands on when i had my first child.

To give her the benefit of the doubt, she may be doing it because she’s trying to help. But you know her, and from what you’ve said, I’m guessing that there’s other things that she’s doing that’s really trying your patience. Have you spoken to your husband about it? It’s a very tricky situation, and while you don’t want to seem ungrateful for her help, there’s ways that she could help without upsetting you. I would try and get her in a relaxed situation where there’s just the two of you, and let her know that you appreciate her trying to help, but you’re pretty organized and have everything ready for your bub when you go out. Turn the situation around by saying “I’m concerned that you’re spending time and money getting things for bub, when you should be spending that time and money on yourself. I’ve got all the things I need for bub, so why don’t you spoil yourself for a change, instead of worrying about the baby?” She can’t take offence if you make it sound like you’re worried about her, rather than attacking her.