its ok to ask for help - Real Mum story on MoM

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Last week I posted a story about how I was not coping being a mum. Thank you to the mums who left wonderful kind comments, it’s amazing how kind people can be when they don’t even know you. I decided to speak to my husband and family and ask for help. We are now sharing the responsibilities a bit more with the kids and trying to give each of us some “me” time. I have also started going on walks also by myself and it’s amazing what some fresh air can do!! The main thing is that IT IS OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP. After I wrote my story I felt like this weight had been lifted off my shoulders, getting everything out in the open instead of bottling it all up! My baby is now sleeping through the night, my husband is giving me some “me” time, I am exercising and getting fresh air and I feel so much better already (probably mostly because I am now getting sleep!!) I was playing with my two year old daughter and she was being bossy and I just laughed and thought to myself “how lucky am I? What beautiful daughters I have and how happy she is even though I felt like I was not doing a good job…I actually was!” She is happy healthy smart “naughty” and loving and so so kind. It also reminded me how much I love my husband, he may not have picked up how sad I was but he was there for me when I asked for help JUST LIKE THAT! I hope if anyone else ever feels the way I did that I can help them the way he helped me, and the kind words from strangers in this site did too. Thank you to you beautiful mummies xxxxx

Posted by dbhall82, 23rd September 2015

14 Comments

- - mom94125 said
  - 29 Dec 2015
    4:02 pm
it is great to see you on a good path! we have our ups and down but it is how we handle them that counts! you are doing well! keep calm, be positive and smile

- - dannsbuild said
  - 30 Sep 2015
    1:41 pm
Sounds like your a good path! Thanks so much for sharing this!
- dbhall82 replied
  
  30 Sep 2015 , 9:33 pm
  Thank you xx
- - BellaB said
  - 26 Sep 2015
    6:52 pm
This is wonderful. I truly thought you sounded clinically depressed, so don’t hesitate to ask for help if you need it.
- dbhall82 replied
  
  28 Sep 2015 , 9:54 pm
  Thank you very much xx
- - mom56312 said
  - 25 Sep 2015
    3:56 pm
Its amazing how some support or encouragement can help a person. So glad you are getting a little me time and the hubby is been more hands on.
- dbhall82 replied
  
  27 Sep 2015 , 6:42 pm
  Thank you I’m feeling much better now xx
- - mom93821 said
  - 24 Sep 2015
    7:44 pm
Wonderful news and pleased to hear that things have improved for you and your family. Wishing you well. xo
- dbhall82 replied
  
  26 Sep 2015 , 9:30 am
  Thank you so much xxxx
  - mom93821 replied
    
    28 Sep 2015 , 4:01 pm
    
    You are welcome! Take care and make sure you get plenty of ‘me time’ xo
- - Carolineb said
  - 24 Sep 2015
    10:02 am
I am glad things are starting to get better for you.
- dbhall82 replied
  
  25 Sep 2015 , 3:28 pm
  Thank you very much I appreciate it xx
- - mum4107 said
  - 24 Sep 2015
    5:09 am
Good on you for asking for help. I’m so glad things are improving
- dbhall82 replied
  
  24 Sep 2015 , 9:43 pm
  Thank you xx