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Never thought the words ok Your Mum can go home tomorrow would mean so much to me as they do now.
After my Mum being in hospital for 5 weeks now than getting the news that she has not got long the words she can go home made me cry.
She will be coming home to live her days out with her family which is great and what she wants so I happy she will be happy.
We had a meeting at the hospital that we had to have with 3 different lots to get this answer and had the last one at 6:00pm last night and we got there at just after 8:00am. Once we got there after getting a phone call to come up as the doctors start at 8:00am so we were out of here for our 1hr trip in very early in the morning which it ended up it did not matter to me as I had not been to bed and could not close my eyes as than my mind would race even faster.
We got there and for the meetings which we have been told about every day for 4 days be this time to be told by a nurse I think the doctors are just meeting between them selves and there is no meeting with family ….. keep in mind my self and Daughter have not been sleeping at all so…my tones of voice changed I did not raise it but my face told her how dangerous those words she has said is getting with me. I told her every day we have been told about it as it is in her file a a meeting with family meeting with doctors and that certainly is not doctor with doctor. My Mum started to get upset and now I am still not raising me voice but my self and Husband and daughter our outward projection has changed and I did say to the nurse we know it has nothing to do with the nursing staff and it is the doctors that say what is what but did make it clear I suggest she get a doctor down to speak to us very quickly.
Now we have a doctor whom comes down and asks what do you want to know?…. and to us is a baby as my children are older … which my Mother answered I want to know what is going on meaning with the meeting…he than rubs Mum’s leg and said ok Dear I was here this morning and seen you but it seems you have fogotten so i will go over it again Dear….
You have Cancer that has now taken over most of your liver Dear along with others….now my Husband whom to some looks intimitdating has now lent forward in his chair and stayed seat and in a normal voice said do not talk down to Mum or like she is an idiot she has cancer she has not lost her mine and speak to her with some respect that she deserves. Ok all of a sudden he got the message was out from behind the curtain and off to make the meetings we had to have with all the different lots happen that opened the curtains and said ok the meeting are going to be today and he said I have told them it must be today due to the family getting intensely upset…..I said to Hubby you must have scared the poor boy.
Mum’s nurses that were allocated to her room for the day thought we were great and they kept making sure this was happening….now the nurse in charge with night shift came in with a smile and said what ever you have done there is one out there to see you they will be in to see you all in a minute.
Now to get to the end of this when had 3 meetings and the last one was the most important one they were the ones that could say yes or no….we got a big yes and he said the other meetings we had glowing reports from and he could see we had a right to be getting upset and said he not be mucking us around like we had been and we got a yes he feels if Mum wants home than that is what is going to happen….today they rang my Daughter and they are supplying the hoist and a couple of other things and if we find any thing else Mum will need they will supply or pay for it and that and Mum is coming home tomorrow and they are getting the Ambo’s to bring her home and get her in the house.
Never felt so good to hear just some simple words that mean so much.

Posted by arcticwynta, 11th June 2014

8 Comments

- - ChiWren said
  - 20 Sep 2024
    6:55 pm
So pleased your mum got to be surrounded by love and in comfort for her remaining time. It’s wonderful that the government is committing to funding of $25K to those who are at end of life to have the ability to pass with dignity and comfort at home. My husband is a geriatrician and is so passionate about his work and advocating for patients.

- - Kelly said
  - 14 Jun 2014
    5:41 pm
Thats so good that she can come home to live out her final days in her own home with her family.
I went through this with my mum she came home and passed 3 days later with all her family around her it was so much better than being in a place with others around that you dont know.
My thoughts are with you and your family.

- - mrsgreen12 said
  - 14 Jun 2014
    5:12 pm
Its so great to hear your Mum can come home and be with her family.
My Dad passed in January and he got to come home too
He was with us for 4 weeks at home before he passed very peacefully in my old room surrounded by his family & friends. A bittersweet moment for us
Those 4 weeks were great just to be with him but on the other end it was very hard to watch him slowly die

Im sending your mum all the strength and love x

- - cherz said
  - 12 Jun 2014
    3:02 pm
Hi Bonnie, I am so pleased Mum is home and has her loving family around her and her wish was finally granted. Sometimes we just have to stand our ground to make ourselves heard.
All my love and hugs sent to you all and may mum’s last days with you all be special and treasured.
- arcticwynta replied
  
  12 Jun 2014 , 6:33 pm
  Thank you very much and it is great that she is were she wanted to be. We all have to keep it together around her so she stays positive as we don’t her to throw the towel in and give up and we don’t want her to get depressed so that it takes her down. I have lost count on how long it has been since I slept but we will get there…..as it is my Mum that count’s at this point in time. Thank you again for your words as they do mean alot to me which some may find strange but it helps that there are people not just wanting a piece of me.
- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 11 Jun 2014
    9:31 pm
I have been following your story for a while now and I’m so glad for you that you can take your mum home to be around the people she loves and holds dearest to he heart and be afforded her dignity and her wishes respected.
- arcticwynta replied
  
  12 Jun 2014 , 1:47 am
  thank you for your words and I have noticed even through some of the jibberish but my mind just goes every where so I am sorry for some parts that were had to follow in this and past posts
  - arcticwynta replied
    
    12 Jun 2014 , 1:50 am
    
    also just noticed my keys are sticking and some now I have to hit hard…..never mind things happen but I do thank you for the support people here have given me and allowing me to have an outlet to let things out.