R.S.V.P. Rage. - Real Mum story on MoM

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Ok, I just need to vent. I have organised a few things over the years: from my children’s birthday parties to my Mums 50th, Tupperware/nutrimetics/Thermomix etc. parties, and so on. And the thing that really gets me is that even when I write “please RSVP by (insert date here)” people still don’t RSVP! I would think that if someone goes to the effort of writing a RSVP date on it, people would go to the 5 second effort to actually respond. These days, RSVP-ing is so easy (generally sms or a single click on Facebook), so why don’t people do it? It’s particulaly frustrating when it’s for a child’s birthday party. The last one I organised (it was my daughters 1st birthday) half the people didn’t bother RSVP-ing. That meant that when you consider children and accompanying parents, there was a potential 26 people that may or may not show up, making catering somewhat difficult (!). I ended up having to contact everyone (luckily, as they all ended up turning up), but still remain kinda annoyed that I had to. I’ve got another event coming up soon, and it’s the same thing, I’m still waiting on RSVP’s. Would love if people would shed some light on why RSVP’ing seems to be going out of fashion. To me, it just seems rude to not RSVP, and really inconsiderate to the host.

Posted anonymously, 9th December 2014

17 Comments

- - mom160421 said
  - 31 Jan 2016
    5:23 pm
I agree it’s inconsiderate. If I were you I would now add the following words to any future invitations: “R.S.V.P. by — or I will assume you are not attending.”

- - 4littlemunchkins said
  - 28 Oct 2015
    10:01 pm
Yes it seems that only a few people ever bother to RSVP, it is very annoying.

- - girl said
  - 17 Sep 2015
    2:45 am
Yes makes me upset when people don’t RSVP and when you have asked especially so you know how many people are coming especially for nutrimetics parties, Tupperware etc because you can cancel if no one is going to come instead of getting upset when no one turns up. Not nice

- - deb_gs said
  - 30 Jun 2015
    11:17 pm
It is very frustrating and like the comment below, I had to chase up RSVPs for my wedding. I usually text with a standard reply and call if I have something to discuss.

- - mom94125 said
  - 19 Jun 2015
    11:54 am
i won’t send these back BUT in saying that, i will call and talk to you and let you know that we are coming and etc. I will give you confirmation and probably ask you if want help, but that is just me. A lot of people think that they got the invite and that is good enough

- - mom108638 said
  - 04 Jun 2015
    7:30 pm
I agree, and I do rsvp… sadly it is another manner lost.

- - deborah_osborne said
  - 28 Mar 2015
    10:50 pm
Would be helpful as u said catering .I do try to reply as its a courtesy ,Took time to be invited ,so manners to reply .

- - mom113712 said
  - 29 Jan 2015
    1:28 pm
I know the feeling when I organised my wedding I still had to ring people and then the day before still had people letting us know they where coming. It seems that people are getting very rude these days it is not had to use their manners.

- - mom93821 said
  - 14 Jan 2015
    10:06 pm
Maybe those that rsvp should get a prize at the door!

- - MrsMcD said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    5:17 pm
So frustrating. My friends are shocking at letting me know if they are coming. Some just assume I know and then turn up because, well, of course they are coming. That would be fine if they turned up every single time but they don’t. It’s all so very random.

- - DaniLamia said
  - 31 Dec 2014
    1:02 pm
It’s common curtesy to reply to an RSVP personally I’d include something in the invitations or on the back about non rsvps will not be welcome or something

- - mom93821 said
  - 25 Dec 2014
    9:51 am
I agree; it is frustrating! We attended an event where most people had not sent and rsvp; as a result the organiser was on the verge of asking the non rsvp’ers to leave due to insufficient seating. As it was a ceremony; he didn’t; however everyone was squished in like sardines; sitting/standing/squatting! It really does only take minutes to do!

- - mom57522 said
  - 24 Dec 2014
    11:07 pm
I always RSVP but, when hosting an event, I often find there is the odd handful who don’t RSVP.

- - Sylverflame said
  - 20 Dec 2014
    9:36 am
Gack! Especially at this time of year too! So annoying

- - jessmumof3 said
  - 11 Dec 2014
    11:37 pm
It can be extremely annoying when this happens but not much more we can do. Best of luck with future events

- - krissy333 said
  - 10 Dec 2014
    9:21 pm
I agree!!! I had to chase ppl for rsvps to my wedding- very very annoying. And on a side note I then had 5 people leave after ceremony and not return for reception!! Wasted $750 on their food/drinks, so rude. People have no matters or etiquette these days

- - BellaB said
  - 09 Dec 2014
    8:18 pm
I really hate that. I always RSVP. And if practical, if someone doesn’t RSVP, I never invite them again.