Im a Mum of a 14 year old daughter who has been swept off her feet by a very BAD 15 year old. When I say bad I mean bad, he is definitely not someone any Mum would want their daughter to be dating.
I have banned her from seeing him, but she is still upset by the situation and is seeing a councillor to discuss the situation. She asked me to make the appointment to see the councillor.
A quick run down on this boy : Father been in jail twice, mother has had some of her kids fostered out, the boy was living with his father at the time my daughter was dating him, then the father was involved in a bashing and went back to jail, so the boy went to live with his Aunty , who already had 6 other children in the home. The boy has been to my daughters school and threatened and punched in the face other boys that my daughter is friends with. the school has a police order against him, so he`s not allowed within 300m of the school grounds. The boy hasn`t been to school in over a year, because he was expelled. This boy covered in home done tattoos and a rats tail hanging down the back of his neck, had my daughter believing every thing he said, to the point where he conned her into wagging a half day of school. I have had my daughter under very close watch for around 8 weeks now, since I found out she`d made a new facebook account and was still in contact with him. She doesn’t get a chance to spend any time with him, cause I don`t let her go anywhere without me. The school are on high alert if she misses a class or doesn’t show up and they contact me if needed. Im aware that she is in some classes with his best mate and threfor she still hears information about him.
How long do I keep up the constant watching and checking up on her? I want to be able to trust that she wont get involved with him again, but how? We still have a good relationship, she gives me cuddles and we cook together etc…. but I`m very aware that he is still on her mind…… I`m worried he will convince her to somehow see him again.
Posted anonymously, 15th May 2014