Oh my god, so many afflictions can’t be seen, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. People can be so ignorant

How terribly sad and wrong this is. Sounds like to me you are doing an amazing job.

Good for you for speaking out about it, you must have it very hard at home at times, and of course I bet all 3 are also very rewarding. Good for you, you are a super Mum.

That must be so frustrating for you. Thanks for sharing this post.

I have an aspergers husband, a son with diagnosed autism, a daughter undiagnosed aspergers, and another daughter with undiagnosed autism. Also 4 NT kids. My miss 17 was last year at 16, knocked back for a diagnoses of aspergers through our local health organisation because she could make eye contact with the assessment team. At the time she was quite proud that she had fooled them, well 2 out of 3. Her comment afterwards,”how stupid do they think I am, that I haven’t worked hard not to be rude and look at people when they’re talking to me?” They follow the same assessment criteria for a 16 as they do a 3 yr old. It’s ridiculous that even our health professionals can’t be bothered with her because well she’s got this far… Needless to say, I haven’t bothered getting diagnoses for my little one yet. We just take what she gives and help her to receive what we give to her. P.S God help the next person who comments on my children the next time I have them all out together, I’m sick of it. Some people are downright rude.

It absolutely sickens and saddens me that in this day and age when there is so much information out there, that people still have this mentality! Sadly it’s often mothers who judge eachother, when they should understand better than anyone. Children with autism are just like any other but they do require a little extra understanding. Pat on the back to you hun, you are doing such an amazing job. Let them walk a mile in your shoes and I’m pretty sure their outlook would change quick smart. We are starting the process of having our youngest son assessed and this is exactly what I fear. Not the diagnosis itself or the daily struggles but that my beautiful little man will be constantly judged and looked down on. People can be so rude and unthoughtful. I bet you are doing the best you can and constantly trying to be a better parent, that makes you a pretty amazing parent

My 8yo has combined type adhd, ocd and odd. I get sick of people judging me when we are out and she is having a meltdown. I have been called a bad parent and told to give her a hiding to teach her a lesson. I always say to peole Dont judge unless you know.

Well said! That is so very true, sharing the same “condition” doesn’t mean sharing the same personalities, people are just too quick to talk about things they don’t really understand sometimes.

The more I read about this Autism Spectrum, the more I admire the parents. Hats off to you all!

This is the very reason there is an autism “spectrum”….each person is shows autistic tendencies in various degrees and ways. They are not all similar and from my limited understanding, some children can have other difficulties like sensory processing. It is sad that society has such high expectations of all children, let alone those with learning and social difficulties, that even minor misbehaviour or the like is completely not tolerated and met with judgemental remarks.

Your story is a perfect example of why parents need to help and support each other, not offer negative advice or judgement. A friendly mine has an autistic child and I admire her parenting skills!

people can be so rude and narrow minded. Don’t let narrow minded people get you down