Tired of the little things - Real Mum story on MoM

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Does anyone else get tired of the petty little arguments that continually crop up……every day it seems at times. I’ve just had an argument with hubby. It’s like Ferris Buellers Day Off, my life is on the repeat button, over and over. He just doesn’t get that we need to communicate to live together. But whenever I try to gave a conversation to discuss something or work something out, he shuts down and says, “Don’t worry about, forget I said I anything.” If I continue to press the point, I get, “Well, if you don’t like it, pack up and move out!” I feel like I should. Now we’ll have a couple of days of the silent treatment with him sleeping in the spare room for a few nights. He’ll get over it and we’ll move on, with no issues being resolved,no of course they pop up again down the track and here we go again……I’m just so tired

Posted by mom81879, 20th November 2015

6 Comments

- - mom112217 said
  - 08 Aug 2016
    5:32 pm
You know in your heart if it is not working out and you take action.I hope it all worked out for you and wish you all the best!

- - mom94125 said
  - 28 Dec 2015
    6:09 pm
yeah that arguement does seem to go to the extreme with the real purpose of shutting down the convo. pick your battles though!. not sure what other advice to offer you.

- - mom90758 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    12:26 pm
I can imagine how tiring it is. “Forgetting” discussions is not a solution indeed. Because the problem is still there and will come out again in the future.
And personally it annoys me so much when people propose to “split” after a quarrel. After so many years together, people should be able to talk about it without thinking of escaping from the marriage.

- - mom81879 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    7:33 am
We’ve done counselling. We’ve been together for over 27 years, we ‘get’ each other. I know the outcome, I know what to expect, I’m used to it. I’ve coped in the past, but now I’m just so tired, I’m older and getting too tired. I’m not sure where to go or what to do anymore

- - mom93821 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    4:34 am
Sorry to hear that things are tough for you. Maybe seeing a counsellor will help? Maybe for you? Maybe for you and your hubby? Maybe letting him know that you need to talk about things and want the relationship to work. Look after your yourself.

- - mom165081 said
  - 20 Nov 2015
    8:35 pm
It really hard to know what to say to this – sounds very hard and frustrating for you. Sounds as though some form of counselling could help – if you both want that. If its always the same things that bring in the ultimatum, then perhaps you need to decide whether your relationship is more important than the small stuff – just a thought. Maybe if you alone sought expert help, that could be enough to help you make clear and well considered decisions. Really feel for you – stay strong.