I’m sure there is something more you can do to get him to stick to his delegated visit times. If that’s what the court has stipulated, he has to stick to it and you have the right to refuse his visits if he wants to change dates/times

if you have an order in place then you have to abide by it i had the same problem with my ex no shows etc ,the children got distressed in the end they didnt want to go but because of the order they had to tell your ex your taking it back to court regarding his not showing up and tell him or better still let the kids tell him wwith you present why they dont want to go with him

Be patient!

I would ring a solicitor just to be safe. Otherwise it can go against you.

While there is no order in place he is free to do whatever. please go to mediation and get some advice and something in place as you do need time without the children also. Remember it is not a court of of anything illegal. just getting what you want.

If he us not showing up I wouldn’t brother in the first place. You could get him to pick the kids up from your place then if he doesn’t cone it won’t upset your day.

If he really wanted to see them he would b there and not make excuses! Ignore him. Bout time he made a bit of effort.

Hope things work out for you Good Luck

How rude of the father. It’s sad for the children

Legal advice is the best option

I like sallty’s suggestion. Maybe arrange to take them to the park or another public place on the day he is supposed to visit, and if possible don’t tell them that he’ll be meeting them there. If he shows he shows, if he doesn’t the kids will be having lots of fun anyway. That way they’re not left disappointed if he doesn’t show. You know, in the log run its really his loss. He might look back one day and think ‘crap! I wasted so many years not spending quality time with my children.’

Gets some professional help good luck

such a delicate issue. good luck.

You need legal advice. You need to make sure that you are doing everything by the book so you don’t get in trouble.

You need to be seeking legal advice because every situation is different

Legal Aid would be the best place to start hun.

i think you should call legal aid for some advice over the phone to start with.

Get some legal advice on this one, as unfortunately obstructing your child from seeing his father can be looked on unfavourably when mediation does come around. Can you instead try and set things up so it won’t be such a huge disappointment if he doesn’t show, perhaps not telling them he’s due to come see them or saying if daddy can’t make it, we’ll do x instead?

How very dare you respond to that lady that way Julie Parker. Whilst I agree nobody has the right to stop another from seeing their children unless they are harming them in some way, the way you rudely and callously went about berating this woman beggars belief. I think YOU need to get over YOURSELF and walk a mile in another persons shoes before you start ranting and judging them, based on a paragraph of information that have provided about their life circumstances, appealing for the advice of others. If you can’t have empathy or sympathy, at the very least please refrain from posting unfeeling, hurtful comments.

Ps some good advice from a friend of mine is if a visit is planned don’t tell the kids, just get them dressed and if he turns up then yay but if not then just head to the park or something, that way they won’t feel rejected and hurt.