Do you know that your mother is probably entitled to government help? You ring My Aged Care and they’ll ask questions and work out a package based on your mother’s needs. Then once you have the package you can ring around providers and get help. You can get help with bathing, dressing, cooking, transportation etc etc. so I hope I’ve shed a bit of light for you. But please do remember your mother bought you up, changing nappies, feeding, educating etc etc. So have some patience with her.

Oh my goodness. I feel for you. Sending you virtual hugs xx. It must be difficult. I’m not at the stage of taking care of parents as they are quite independent, healthy and active despite being almost 80. Can you talk to your doctor or community nurse to help you find extra support for your mum and also some support for you too. Wishing you all the best. Take care.

Aww Hun this must be really hard, it sounds like you’re doing amazingly. If you’re able to get an appointment with a geriatrician they may be able to help and guide to further services available in your community. My husband is building a hospital in the home service in our community, and I know there are many others throughout the country.

I feel for you lovely! It sounds like you are going through a really hard time and doing it all alone can’t be easy. There are organisations out there that can provide you with some relief. I.e. they can step in and provide respite care for you so you can have some time to yourself with your child. I recommend looking into that to keep your sanity.

Just a huge thank you to both of the mum’s who replied. Your responses are lovely and great warning. Xo

Oh my lovely… I’m so sorry! I can’t imagine being on your own with it all! My dad has disphagia and is going through a lot.. he can’t hear well and can’t speak to gets understandably angry and frustrated but for you to be alone with that is definitely a lot and you shouldn’t feel guilt for that at all!
Add to that you are a busy mum! I’m glad you reached out on here and have us all to talk to. That’s the most important thing right now is making sure you have people to speak with and getting away every now and again. Perhaps you can go to a regular playgroup with your child so you have some regular catch ups and time away. I know it’s probably easier said than done but you are important and need taking care of too. Wishing you luck with it.

I’ve been there and it is hard and challenging. I was like most people and found it difficult but did all that was needed and more. After she was gone though I wished I had done so much more, it never seems enough. Try to think of your time with her not as a chore but your last, special times with her. Mum finally went into care. Mentally she was good but physically she couldn’t get about well. It was upsetting at first but she was only in there a week when she said that she wished she had done it sooner and she hadn’t realised she was so lonely.