You are not wrong. at all. You are totally entitled to privacy, respect and the right to say no when you don’t want to have sex.

You’re absolutely not wrong for wanting boundaries and respect in your relationship. It’s totally fair to feel that intimacy should be mutual and on your terms, not just because of a specific time. It might help to have an open conversation with your husband about how this makes you feel and why having that respect and understanding is important. You’re definitely not alone in wanting to feel valued beyond physical expectations.

You’re definitely not wrong for feeling this way! It’s so important to feel respected and valued in your relationship, and it sounds like you’re feeling more like an object than a partner right now. Your body is yours, and you should never feel pressured to jump into intimacy just because your period is over.

It’s crucial for your husband to understand that intimacy should be about both of you wanting it, not just a routine expectation. Open communication is key- maybe it’s time to have a candid chat with him about how you feel. You deserve to be treated with respect and to have your boundaries honoured. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to stand up for yourself!

The libido of a male works a bit different: men and women are truly differently wired.
The male libido lives in two areas of the brain: the cerebral cortex and the limbic system. These parts of the brain are vital to a man’s sex drive and performance. They are so important, in fact, that a man can have an orgasm simply by thinking or dreaming about a sexual experience.

We are all different, but there is a physical explanition for how we feel about this.
As a woman you may notice your sex drive starting to rise a few days after your period has finished in the days leading up to ovulation. It’s during this time when you may notice other energy levels are high too! This is thanks to the hormone estrogen which peaks around about ovulation day.1

Reading stories like this, I give a huge hallelujah for menopause and no more periods ???? ???? But I feel ya in the demanding sex hubby department. They’re so inconsiderate

You are not wrong at all. It would make you just feel used. He is in the wrong here.

No you are not wrong at all!

You are totally not the A-Hole. I found I get a feeling of being used when my hubby has nothing to do with me for the time on my period, affection drops off to an all time low and suddenly can “use” my body again for lack of a better term then suddenly he wants to be affectionate… yuck. Though with open communication and talking about how it made me feel we have worked at it and he understands my point of view now,

What you feel is never wrong! Your body is yours, married or not. Respect is mandatory. Keep your own standards for your body. Then if it’s not liked, make your decision from there to work it through or not.

I’ve felt like this for over 30 years! It’s awful, there’s more to love and relationships then sex!!!!

You have control over your own body. Sex should be about ‘making love’, not just the physical pleasure that goes with it. If he is wanting to jump you as soon as your period finishes, that’s not really showing his love and respect for you. Unfortunately, it’s hard for men to understand the concept of not making women feel like a piece of meat. They are wired differently to us and think a lot more about the physical and less about the romantic. Have you tried talking to him?

Your body your rules, if your husband can’t respect that then he needs to take a serious look in the mirror. It can be frustrating I understand but another option can be sitting down together and figuring out other ways to “fill in the void” so to speak during your times of the month. Everyone has different feelings about sex toys or self pleasure items but if your comfortable with something like that then a trip to the adult fun store together could be something to look into. Again may not be for everyone but it’s worked for my partner and I ????

You don’t have to do anything you don’t feel comfortable in doing with your husband. If you are feeling pressured it might be good to talk with 1800RESPECT

Not at all! Your body is still in hormone surge when when your period ends. It’s normal to feel that way.
My poor hubby gets it maybe a couple of times a month. I’m tired, I’m tapped out, and just want to relax and sleep. That’s okay too!

I thoroughly enjoy doing it, every time my partner is in the mood I am too.
But I will not do it during my period or until a few days after my period finishes, as I have a fear of there being blood.(Trauma from past relationship). So I don’t blame you for not wanting to do it then. But, I think sex in a relationship is really important and it’s not fair to deny it constantly.

I fully agree! For years I just went along with it (mostly) but I’m sick of it now. It’s like it’s the only thing he’s concerned about, I hate it and I’ve just stopped it. He’s not thrilled, things might change, but he’ll need to change first I think

I encourage you to talk to your partner. I am very open and honest in regards to this topic with my partner and am very lucky that they understand

Hopefully you can be open and honest with him and that he is understanding of how you feel. I don’t think you’re in the wrong, i totally get where you’re coming from. I hope you can get it sorted.

My suggestion is to talk things through with your husband so that he knows how you feel. He may have no idea that he is coming on too strong and making you uncomfortable.