There is more than one way to reach fulfillment.

It takes a bit of time and little bit if effort from the two of you, so don’t put too much pressure on yourselves. It will return to normal in time

Date nights are great to really appreciate each other without your children interrupting all the time. Even a picnic blanket in your yard with some chocolates and wine once the kids are in bed is a great way to reconnect.
The best thing I’ve found works is having really long hugs, the physical contact always boost moods and when you are happy the sex usually follows

It took us a long time to rekindle after our second child…it turned out I had PND so was even less interested in sex.
It took a while but we are slowly getting back to where we were….my libido is not what it was before kids but we make time to be together. We try and have regular ‘date nights’ where my parents take the kids over night or we put them to bed early if we can. I think it is about making time for each other, even though you are both usually exhausted. and remembering to appreciate each other for the little things they do…

we have 5 kids and a great sex life. after each child, my hubby didnt pressure me for sex. he would be affectionate and if it happened, it happened. i also kept in mind that he has needs too and while he was being respectful of my needs, i needed to compromise for his needs too