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“Hi there, quick question if u can ask ur members.. I have a 3 year old daughter who has visible burn marks on her inner arm area since she was one. I’m looking to put her into playgroups or daycare and have been there when one child asked what was on her hand. I’m worried when I’m not around how she would respond as don’t want her to be upset or get a complex about it. How can I prepare her?” Do you have any tips for preparing a child for questions?

Posted by Diana, 07/04/13

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  • I would get her to tell kids that she had an accident when she was younger. You can also get camoflague skin tone make up (similar to foundation) that can cover burn/scar marks.


  • Hope it all went well for you both.


  • I hope your daughter settles in well:)


  • I hope your little girl settled into childcare ok.


  • let her know that kids will ask and that its ok just tell them the truth


  • Hard, but don’t make a big deal of it, our son had a birthmark which has now faded. He told everyone it was his lucky mark and was a happy confident little boy. You and your beautiful daughter will be okay. Playgroup will give her confidence for when she starts school.


  • I hope it all went well for your daughter


  • Hope you have had some comments below to be of help.


  • Some good advice given below – hope it has helped.


  • Maybe no one will worry as the position the marks are in it would not be very noticable.Don’t make a fuss and see what happens Good luck


  • Does these burns bother her? Of can u get an arm sleeve to cover it?


  • Hope its going well for you and you found the answers you were looking for :)


  • yes all good points ladies


  • If she is confident and has no problems talking about it now she will be fine. Best to ask the teacher if you are concerned before going.


  • Talk to her about it, talk to the teacher about it and honesty is best


  • Honestly kids are just curious. Kids with glasses get asked a lot why they have them. I would tell her that everyone is different not everyone looks the same .Some have black hair some have brown some have blue eyes some have green . and some have marks on their skin and some don’t.. Might work.


  • And reassure her that there is nothing wrong with her


  • Stop stressing, your anxiety may be making this worse! So long as she is honest, it doesn’t overly matter what other people think.


  • As long as she knows what it is from and hasn’t been taught to be ashamed of it it shouldn’t bother her when (and they will) other kids ask her about it.
    Think Nemo and his lucky fin.
    Make sure you’ve spoken to her teacher/teachers about it so that they can explain it if she’s not coping with having to explain them.
    The most important thing is that she’s not faltered by them and then she’ll happily show off her “war scars” not giving anyone the opportunity to make her feel any negativity about them


  • First talk to the teacher second tell her to tell the truth and come up with a one line explanation she can remember easily that will shut down any more questions :)


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