I think you have to let it go as it is making you sick it’s not worth it your not going to do anything except put the wedge between your brother and you bigger, he will stand up for her and your brother will want his family to stay together.

I hope things worked out well for you.

Oh no poor thing. I think you just need to say something. When family bonds are strong there is almost anything that can tear them apart

Delete her from your Facebook. That will solve what seems to be one of your bug bears. Some people just never get along

I know exactly how you feel. In my case I had to walk away and I haven’t spoken to my brother or his family in over five years. I have no regrets though. It’s better for my mental health this way.

You need to get toxic people out of your life,be civil and that’s all she’s not worth it.

You can’t control the way she acts only the way you react and although very difficult you’ve really got to try to not let it bother you. My mother in law and I used to get on really well until I stood up to her once and now she’s a little on the frosty side. Although I prefered it when we got on, the relationship was fake as I wasn’t being true to myself. I am still friendly and polite but I certainly don’t go out of my way now. As for facebook and liking/posting comments or not ~ sounds like she’s trying to get to you and it’s working. You’ll just have to do your best to ignore it.

Are you alone in this thought or do other family members feel the same way? Perhaps talk to other members to get their advise as they know her and will know how she will react.

You do not need negativity like that in your life. You need the positivity of your family, your children, husband and any other family members you get along with and your friends. Don’t stoop to her level. Be the bigger person, be polite when you do see her and let it go. Move on. Stay away from facebook or delete/block her for a while. You will feel so much better. Good luck.

I don’t know your full situation so my comment is entirely base on my experience. Have you befriended her? if not try be friends with her, take away the fact that she’s your in-law, try to set aside your difference. Try spend some alone time with her, maybe shopping or movie, find a common ground where both of you can begin a relationship. Once that relationship is established, then you can probably bring up some issues that was bothering you if it still does… With your brother, confront him and try mend things with him… But if all fails, it wont hurt to start a life without them, you’ll be much happier without having to deal with all the dramas… All the best!

Well, just ignore her, unforuntately, some people always so nasty and they will never change

I agree with MOM93821 that you could benefit from speaking to professionals and developing strategies to deal with your anxieties. I once hoped that my family would ‘like’ or comment on my photos on Facebook, but they never do. They will mention that they saw such and such photo on Facebook, but they never like or comment on things I post. Although my sister does like her friends posts …. I’ve just learnt to live with it – with some help from a counsellor. It might help you too.

Just dont worry about it, be the bigger person, be nice to her, talk to your brother and ignore her antics.

Have talk with your family and see what they think, two or more heads are better than one. Is she jealous? as this can result in bad behaviour. Most of all it is not your fault so do not give yourself hard time. Be friendly but you may never be best friends, just do not resort to her form of behaviour it does not work and will make matters worse and you unhappy. Family memories are to be shared and remembered, we even laugh at the stuff ups now.

i think that you need to focus on your family and don’t worry about her attitude.

The most important issue is your anxiety and it would be good to get some support from your GP. Once this is being dealt with then you can get some assistance from a counsellor on managing your sister in law.

I would be inclined to ignore her, but you obviously don’t want to do that. Could you raise it with your brother first? Perhaps write her an “open letter” – ie one you share with other people so she can’t misrepresent what you have said.

Dont worry about her just focus on you and your family

Best advice I had from my Doctor was to divorce my ‘Mother-in-law NOT my husband.
She was the cause of my high blood pressure and anxiety. She suggested that I keep my distance by having something else to do. Change your setting’s on Facebook so she no longer see’s your photo’s and tell her it’s a privacy issue. Should she ask? Chill out with her. There is one of these people in everyone’s family. I would suggest you mention this to your doctor and have a health plan for your bad anxiety and stress levels. Sometimes it’s better you talk to a physiologist about how to keep calm. They can advise you of techniques to help you as well as good family advice. My point here is this is where you can tell someone and not cause a argument between your husband and his sister and his family. You love him and if your house is a happy one then that’s all that matters! Join a gym or go running get those good endorphin flowing and you will feel great about you and your little family and the bad anxiety will just go away. Best of luck!

I must ask why you are even giving this person any of your energy worrying about her problems, devote your time and effort to your family, your husband and your children, it is her loss, it is unfortunate for your brother, but it is his issue and he is probable well aware of what sort of person she is, don’t post anything on social media that she can see, block her access to your photo’s, see if she notices!! But I would enjoy my life, I would not challenge her, I would be polite and keep social situations to a minimum, be there to support your brother if he calls, But it is the old story, we can pick our friends but cant pick our relatives, Look after yourself.