Hello!

I am 38 years old and the mother of a 10yr old and 13yr old. My husband had a vasectomy after our second child was born.
I have on the odd occasion been late with my period, but lately it’s been pretty regular. I’m not on contraceptives as hubby has had a vasectomy.
I am currently 3-4 weeks late, have sore/ tender breasts and have had intermittent sciatic pain in bum and shoulder.
I have not been with anyone else other than my husband. I have heard that in rare instances a vasectomy can heal. I am quietly starting to freak out as I am at a stage in life where my kids are becoming more independent and life is getting easier. I’m starting to look towards things like a career change, etc and I have no baby stuff anymore!
Has anyone else experienced anything like this?


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  • I havent personally had anyone go through the same situation as you so im not sure how helpful i can be! Your best bet is to do a pregnancy test or check in with your GP if you have concerns. They could check and give you a bit more peace of mind about it all


  • I would book an appointment with my GP and do all the necessary tests. It will save you stressing and give you accurate information. All the best.


  • Go to the supermarket and grab a test. You will know very quickly if you are pregnant or not but if the result is negative you need to book to see the GP asap as there are various things that could cause these symptoms and some are things you dont want to waste time over.


  • Like you said you’re 38. You know how to do this. A quick trip to the shops or doctors office would clear this right up. No point in stressing yourself out without being sure. It seems as though the bigger question is what are you going to do about it if you are. Best of luck to you.


  • I would take a pregnancy test. It isn’t as rare as some people think. Have you spoken to your husband about? Did he have the follow up appointments following the vasectomy?
    I’ve not experienced this myself but have heard of many people that have had this happen and even where the father wants a DNA test due to thinking the mother has had an affair or something. Definitely recommend both of you seeing the doctor.


  • I have read countless posts on Reddit of people falling pregnant after having the snip, and having no idea it could be a possibility. Your husband should go get his sample analysed to see if he is functioning as if the procedure never happened. And maybe consider a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease.


  • No personal experience, but I do know this is possible. I suggest you have a pregnancy test as soon as possible, because the sooner you know, the more options you will have available to you. I understand your apprehension, but I have a friend who had kids with ten year age gaps, and she said it wasn’t the worst thing.


  • I have not been in this situation before but have heard that this is possible. I would recommend booking an appointment with your doctor straight away to get tested and have an assessment done to determine what this could be. Good luck and I hope the outcome is what you want it to be.


  • OMG. I would be rushing off and buying a home pregnancy test and menopause test. It will be either one or the other. Both can happen at any age. Then you’ll need to decide what to do next. Good luck with your decision.
    Xox. Xox. Xox. Xox. Xox. Xox. Xox.


  • From my understanding it is possible but rare to become pregnant after the vasectomy procedure. How long ago did he have the procedure ? and has a post vasectomy analysis done and confirmed that there is no sperm ? Also in some rare cases reconnection occurs hence the importance of follow up testing. I would put my mind at ease and at least do a pregnancy test


  • oooo I haven’t been through this sorry but thought it was a few months after the procedure you have to be careful. Did he 100% have the vasectomy? You’ve done well holding out, I would have completed a test straight away to know. Probably taken a few by now. Hope it turns out how you want and thanks for sharing.


  • I totally understand how you feel! My kids are all grown now so the idea of falling pregnant is far from ideal. However I wouldn’t stress too much, there are so many reasons you could be experiencing these symptoms so it is best you visit your doctor for a checkup. I don’t know much about vasectomies so I can’t help with that but I think it’s best not to worry until you have answers. Good luck with it


  • There is only one way to find out, have a test and see your Doctor. It could be many others things too so a Doctor’s visit would be best. We should never just leave things, even if you are not pregnant, e aware & follow up any changes to your body


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