If she wants to have a baby shower to celebrate the arrival of the second child, I think that’s okay. I don’t think guests should feel obligated to buy gifts from a gift registry unless they want to. I chose not to have a baby shower, but if I were hosting this one I would word the invitation along the lines of “Your presence would be greatly appreciated, and presents are optional.”

Eeeek! I know how you feel. I know someone who also said they wanted to do a second baby shower and she justified it as ‘why should the first baby get one and the second one not’ I guess I can see her reasoning if it’s important to her but to ASK for presents is pretty bold.
I think if you want to have another shower it would be nice to say ‘presents not necessary’ or something to that effect. It always amazes me how different people are

I think it is a bit much but each to their own. I don’t think as a Baby shower as for each baby, rather the starting of a family with the first baby and setting up for that. People can always not go or keep the present small. I have always thought gift registries rude and over the top and that people should be happy with what they are gifted.

This does sound a bit rude. I had a ‘baby celebration’ for my second and people weren’t expected to buy gifts, but could if they wanted to. My second was a boy so getting some clothes and cheaper things was handy. But it was very simple and I did it all myself. It is wrong that she is making it a lavish affair.

I had two baby showers with my second baby (one at work and another with friends) but I didn’t have one with my first baby. I can’t recall why .. but I guess I made up for it having two the second time .. hehe!!

I have never been a fan of traditional get togethers and events and some of the expense and excess of gifts that go with some of these events. I prefer low key get togethers and gifts that are considered and from the heart with meaning behind them from family and friends.

Lol no, I didn’t have / or throw a baby shower for my first let alone for my second. I always thought that a baby shower is thrown by someone other than your self, but I also didn’t hint to my family or friends that I would like to have a baby shower. I sounds to me a bit like “okay guys I want to be spoiled and want to have some presents”

Yeah, this does sound inappropriate. For my second, we had a “baby sprinkle” – basically, half a dozen of my friends and I went out for a slightly fancy afternoon tea. I didn’t expect presents, but they were all kind enough to bring something small (like a picture book). It was basically a chance to spend time with friends before those crazy few months.

I think if she wants to have a party, like a celebration for the little one being brought into the world, that’s cute. Asking for gifts a second time around is tacky in my opinion. It seems very double dippy. I think it’s a little cheeky to expect more pricey gifts

I did not have a baby shower because it just did not hold any interest for me. We were lucky enough to be gifted with many pre loved items for our babies that had only been used for a short while. I have never ever been a fan of any type of gift registry.

I am leaning towards agreeing with you. I think it is rude to do a gift registry for a baby shower, you should be thankful for receiving a gift at all. For a second or third child you tend to have more of a sprinkle party than a full baby shower and i don’t think gifts are expected.