Oooohhhh, sounds like she’s testing her limits, and yours! Keep doing what you’re doing, she’ll soon learn

I’m not sure on how to fix it, but I’m pretty sure avoiding situations won’t help

I’m no expert as I have one child who is almost 4, but I’ve been finding biglittlefeelings on Insta sooooo useful for this issue. Essentially I try to understand it from her perspective and sometimes try to preempt the tantrum by setting expectations. I still hold my ground but I find giving a warning of what’s coming (we’re going to leave the park once you’ve gone on the slide once more) generally works. Sometimes she’ll whinge but then I just acknowledge what she’s feeling (I know it must be disappointing to leave the playground, I’d love to stay all day too) then distract (We do have to go home so lets work out what fun things we can do when we get there), It seems to work 9 times out of 10. She’ll outsmart me soon and then I’m in trouble! But just like her sleep as a baby everything is a stage and it’ll pass, and it’s all growth and learning for both of us!

This is a difficult one, I have always tried to let my child know in advance if we have to go shopping or somewhere so they know there might be limited playtime, but that when we get home, they can come back and play with their toys.

Go down to her level first. Picking her up to take her out of situations is probably making her feel very helpless. Kneel down, keep a calm gentle voice and ask what is wrong. Ask if there is anything they need. Water, food, a cuddle. I don’t believe children ‘tantrum’ for no reason. I really despise that word, same with the word ‘whinging’. I believe they have emotional needs which are not being met, so they are trying to communicate in the only ways they have learnt how to. It’s up to us as adults to be the emotionally mature ones and be good communicators, keep our attitude and reactions under control. Children at this age are not capable of controlling their emotions and need empathy they are in a different brain wave state to adults. We must learn to compromise with them. Is it really a big issue if they go down the slide at the park one or two more times? If they want to look at things in the shops for 5 more minutes? I think you need to look at the bigger picture. Try to enjoy your time with them, it’s a blessing.