Dont make a big issue of it.
I would have left him in nappies until he was ready to use the toilet.
Best to back off and just dont give any attention to him when he poops. No positive and no negative. Simply clean him up without fuss or conversation.

Sounds to me you gave it too much attention. I would step back and follow his cues. He’ll do it when he is ready I promise !

Definitely following! My son has just turned 3. He is doing really well doing wees on the toilet. Even stands up and does it but always goes to hide when wanting to do poos or tries to get off the toilet when he is halfway through. Don’t get discouraged! By the comments your in the same boat as a lot of us!

I used to give my son something in a present box that i bought for 1$ maybe. Sometimes i used to put a banana or lollypop or a snack. Each time i used to ask him if he want to have surprise present he must go to the bathroom first. He was always happy to go so that after it he can have the surprise box. Slowly and gradually he learnt but yes there were days when nothing worked it was accident day but kids learn.

Oh the joys of toilet training. It’s tough and frustrating and messy, but he will get there eventually

Hmm.. I think your doing a great job! He’ll go when he’s ready. I know it sucks and its confusing but I’ve found with boys, they’re gonna do what they want to do until they figure it out themselves.

will he tell you he needs to do a poo? maybe you might need to get him to wear nappies just for doing a poo. its pretty normal for kids to take a bit longer to get the pooing on the toilet thing down. apparently it feels weird for them which makes sense cos they’re used to going in a nappy where it doesn’t hang or anything.

Back to pull ups and wait bit longer maybe? That would be so frustrating for you.

Maybe it’s too much. Pretend it doesn’t matter for a while then start training again. Boys usually take longer to train

Sounds like he is using it to be assertive, so in some way you need to put the decision back onto him, maybe give it a rest for awhile and when changing him do not say anything, do not make a fuss. Does he have siblings or cousins that you can praise in front of him when they use the toilet? When he hears others getting praised for using the toilet he may change his mind especially if changing nappies becomes so boring and un-eventful.

My niece went through a phase of not wanting to poop. She would scream every time she was put on the toilet or potty. Turned out she had been constipated which had caused an anal fissure. Every time she tried to poo after, it reopened the fissure and hurt

Maybe he’s just not ready yet. It sounds like there’s been a lot of emphasis on it so maybe take a break for a few months and come back to it. Try not to make a big deal of it otherwise it can turn into a battle of wills.

We had difficulty with our oldest, but it was different in a way, so I am not sure if this will be of help. I think he was squeamish of pooing on the loo and preferred to use the nappy and for us to change him and take care of it. A health nurse suggested we pop him in an empty bath when he pooed, hand him a fresh nappy and tell him he had to change himself. It felt cruel, but doing that once seemed to change his mindset and he decided using the toilet was a better option than doing that again.

Maybe he’s just not quite ready yet. Give him a few weeks off with less pressure and then try again?

I’m in the same situation with my 3 year old daughter – I have tried a few things but I think she is just not ready yet. she used the toilet for wee like a champion. She’s stubborn so I’m just going to ride it out

I too think he will do it when he is ready. Did your maternal health nurse offer any ideas?

I am so interested as well

Firstly; You are not failing.
He’s only 3yr old. Seems you tried a lot and in my opinion a bit too much. I would stop trying for a while and pick it up when HE is ready. My son was 4yrs old when he started doing the poo on the toilet and still had the odd poo accident when he was 5yrs old.

Try OT mummy.com they have alot of helpful tips

Try getting him to still pop with his undies on whilst sitting on the toilet to at least get him used to doing it in a sitting position