My Mum and best friend went through the same things, though extra surgery for the friend. For my friend I let her know I was there for her and made her a lap quilt which she used during chemo treatments. My Mum I let her know it was okay if she wasn’t feeling up to doing things but for her it was that all food tasted like garbage. We tried everything then stumbled on aloe Vera drinks and she loved them.

There isn’t much you can do for her pain. She would have pain medication. Just being there’s with her would be a comfort

Just be there for her. Spend time with her, find foods/drinks that she can stomach and bring them to her.

Just be there x im currently going through chemotherapy since being rediagnosed in feb. We have bad days, more than good. But just having someone there is the nicest feeling

Your support and company and I care package with made with love which could contain creams, magazines, crosswords, colouring in books for adults ,A head scarf, book,anything to take her mind of the pain 🙂

I had a similar situation and you just have to be there and show her she has love and support in these tough times by family and friends being there.

I think the best way to support her is to be there for when she needs, you are already doing a lot. The best thing is the happiness your little one is bringing to her, so just keep doing it.

From experience, you cannot make them better, so don’t try. Just love and support your friend/family member and be you. The more normal you are, the more they can open up and get the blaghh out! All the best to you both x

You sound like a very caring and thoughtful person. When I had chemo and radiation I really valued my close friendships. My sister bought me some divine moisturiser and body wash. My skin was so so dry and it was one of the most thoughtful things I received.

So heartfelt! It is good reading the comments and interest to this!

There’s not much you can do for her pain. Other then spend time with her, let her see your kids, talk, read, watch TV. Take her mind off things, thinking about something else

I too found the best distraction for my mother in law when she was going through cancer treatment was seeing her grandkids. Other than distractions, I don’t think there is too much you can do. Although, in hindsight, I know the presence of certain people made her feel worse. If I could go back and do it again, I would insist those people stay away or keep sone comments to themselves. Some of her kids kept trying to push her into doing things she didn’t want,many it didn’t help her at all

I hope things have improved since your post.

Spending time with her, comfort her and if hair does fall out maybe a makeover if she feels up to it

i think lots of visits would help a bit and i hope she gets better soon

I hope everything has been working out for you

still take bub to visit, just let them sit on your knee and not theirs and tell them why, they will understand I am sure

I went through chemo last year and I think it is wonderful that you are so concerned. I’m guessing that your MIL is almost through this by now. If she hasn’t already, get in touch with an organisation called “Look Good, Feel Better” they run free workshops for women going through treatment and it is a brilliant time and you can go along with her. It’s also amazing how happy you are when someone cooks for you. Best wishes for her journey.

Sounds like the best treatment is your daughter! Go for lots of visits and if that’s not possible, send her lots of photos and videos of her.

I went through this recently with a girlfriend of mine. It was heart-breaking, because there really was nothing I could do to relieve the pain for her. Your mother-in-law’s doctors should be aware of this, and ensure that she has access to medication that will make her even a little more comfortable. I asked my friend what I could do to help her, and she said that the most valuable gift I could give her was my time. Chemo & RadioT are both essentially poisons, and while they target cancer cells, they also damage healthy cells. Different people react differently, often with different types of pain. If your Mum-in-law can bear to be touched, a very gentle hand massage from you while you talk to her would probably be very welcome. If there’s a movie or comedy show that she likes, organize a dvd afternoon, where you can both relax with some snacks, nice oil in an oil burner, and try and take her mind off things a little, even if only for an hour or two. But the best gift you can give her is to tell her that you are there for her, day or night, if she wants to talk, to cry, to vent, or just to sit together. She knows that you love her, and by the sounds of it, you’d do anything for her, but don’t forget to keep telling her that, because like my friend, she often may think she doesn’t want to bother you. If she’s up to it, suggest putting together a special “Treasured Memories” Box for your daughter, with photos, trinkets, anything that’s special or funny or precious, that she’d like your daughter to have. It can include letters from her, tapes of her speaking, all manner of things. I hope that it works out for her and you. I really do wish you and her all the very best. xxxxxx