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My daughter is 3 and throws major trantrums if she doesn’t get her way. Throws things, hits things, screams, cries etc… If I engage with her or ignore, it makes no difference. How can I stop this from happening?

Posted by anon, 26/06/2013

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  • At that age kids aren’t able yet to express their emotions. Help her to give words to feelings. Do feelings puzzles and games and watch video’s about feelings on You Tube kids. Model staying calm and give words to feelings. You could also think about calming down strategies; distraction, redirection, drink a sip of water, give a squeezy hug, count till 10 together, teach her deep breaths, blow bubbles etc


  • I totally ignore tantrums and just walk away.


  • they all go through this phase, totally normal. don’t think you can do much


  • It’s just that age, just ignore her, show her lots of attention when she acts the way you like. But yeh just the age just have to put up with it for a least a year. it sucks.


  • Hopefully it was a stage that she grew out of, children can be very defiant,


  • How is she going now? Did any advice help?


  • time outs, naughty corner usually have some success. and perservere


  • i hope its worked out


  • Hope you found the answer you were looking for.


  • What did you end up doing?


  • naughty corner might do the trick, stay there for how old she is in minutes ie. 3 minutes for 3 year old, 4 minutes for 4 year old etc


  • I hope some of the suggestions below have helped


  • I used to ignore it & walk away (wasn’t easy) & after a while he realised I wasn’t giving him the attention or reaction he wanted & eventually stopped


  • I hope you have found a way to handle the tantrums, it’s so stressful especially out in public.


  • Continue to ignore but keep them safe. My niece has horrible tantrums hitting head on wall and all. Now she has grown out of them she is a lovely little girl


  • Time out for 5 minutes if she persists ignore and walk away


  • Shazzmatazz has great suggestions. Whatever you choose, just be persistent. I hope things have improved for you!


  • U can’t stop this! But on positive side they grow out of it


  • Definitely as said before, be consistent. Don’t let your kids think that throwing a tantrum is going to get them what they want. You may not be able to stop them just yet, but remember consistency now will mean they don’t go on too much in to the future. Be strong and good luck


  • just ignore her when she throws tantrum. my son just passed that phase. we called it “superman” when he just suddenly lay down on the floor like superman. 😀


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