Is there a time where you know if you’re ready?

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  • I don’t know if there is ever a right time. You just go with what life have dealt you.

  • I think it’s something that will just happen and you will know it.

  • Everyone says you tend to be ready when your first child is 3years old. I think it all depends on your families circumstances and if you are mentally ready for a second as two children is a lot harder than one.

  • I don’t think you ever know. How do you evaluate something or pre-empt it? It depends on how your first baby was (don’t assume a second pregnancy or baby will be the same); work situation, finances; communication with husband/partner. So many variables.

  • We just went with it because fertility was such a massive issue. Ultimately, it all worked and so happy we went for baby no2. There were some doubts along the way but again everything worked out.

  • I knew I was ready for baby number two when I was in the right head space. I needed to reassure myself that I was ready in all areas mentality, physically etc… I knew I wanted to have a sibling for my eldest.

  • My idea with my 2 was that I wanted one to be pretty much toilet trained before having another. Save on expense of nappies and just the joys of cleaning up. There is a 2.5yr gap between mine and it’s pretty much perfect. They are still great playmates when not fighting, but one can look out for the other too.

  • You never know if you’re ready. Just go for it and work things out as you go. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.

  • My first pregnancy was twins and I felt so clucky as soon as they were born. I wanted to be pregnant again so bad. Ended up getting pregnant when they were a bit over 2 years old as I needed to think with my head not my heart. We were in a better financial position there and the age gap is incredible now.

  • There is no ‘right’ time. It is right whenever you and your partner decide.

  • Me and my daughters father always wanted my daughter to have a sibling to grow up with and play with. After baby number 1 I knew that I was ready for another baby for starters when my body had recovered a bit, I had exercised for a bit, got my abs back and felt like I was in great shape but more importantly really healthy to support the growth of a baby. We seperated when she was almost 2, however have recently started seeing each other again. How do we know when we are ready for another baby? When we know that we are emotionally mature enough for a long lasting relationship living together and that we will not separate again. It was also very clear when my daughter was just months old that she would need someone to play and talk to, another child. I’m just very happy she has a cousin only 7 weeks younger she is very close with. Still hoping for a sibling one day but until then I will continue to work on myself. My emotional maturity and growth as a person. How I react to things, my overall attitude, my communication skills etc. so I can be the best mother I can be.

  • I don’t think there is ever a right time. It will happen when it happens.

  • I am 4 months into first baby a girl – It is so hard but I am an only child and what motivates me to have a secound is wanting her to have a sibling to be there as another support through life like I wish I had. It’s not going to be easy and I can’t fathom having my body ready any time soon but that thought motivates me to start looking after my health more so I can start contemplating trying for a second in a year or so. I don’t think I’ll ever feel “ready” unless I won the lotto and had a house full of staff to help lol

  • I don’t think there is.
    My husband and I swore off any more babies (after number two) so when I fell pregnant with a surprise, I had a hard time getting my head around it, but once I held the baby in my arms in the delivery room I couldn’t imagine how we lived without her to that point!

  • I guess it’s some sort of instinct.

  • You sometimes feel so ready and then other times think you’re not but it’s the same with everything and you know when you start really wanting another one.

  • I guess when your satisfied that’s what you want and would be best for your family. A lot of the time baby no! 2 isn’t planned and just a real gift. Good luck.

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