You’re definitely not alone in feeling torn about this. It’s a lot to juggle, especially when it feels like a big part of your hard-earned income goes straight to support others. It doesn’t make you a bad wife at all; it sounds like you care deeply about doing what’s right for your family, even when it’s hard. It’s okay to feel conflicted, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to see some of that income benefit your own household too. If you’re comfortable, maybe discussing boundaries or a plan with your husband could help, like setting aside a smaller amount or finding ways for everyone to contribute in different ways. It’s all about balance, and it sounds like you’re doing your best to find that.

Of course that doesn’t make you a bad wife !

Definitely not a bad wife, this would be really hard.

Its a difficult position you’re in and I think its valid you feel this way. Why would you need to financially support them?

I think it is fair enough to feel that way. It’s hard enough now to cover your own family costs. I guess if this was communicated to you at the start and you were aware. As long as it is a joint decision (and it is allowed to be), I think that is the best outcome.

Yes that is really hard and I’m going to be in a similar position. A feeling of resentment is understandable and it is important to talk about it with your husband so he is aware and hopefully appreciative. I know in some cultures it is pretty much expected that you will be supporting both sides parents because when you marry someone it’s the whole family you are joining. My current issue is that I really don’t want to go back to full time work but if the financial support is ongoing and high then I may need to which really urks me.

That is really tricky, I totally understand! Is there a way they can get some financial independence from you? So you get a bit of your own wage

You’re not a bad wife and your feelings are definitely valid.
Like other mums have said, we don’t know why you are supporting your in laws, but just know that what you are feeling is normal and talk to your husband about it if you can.

No your not a bad person, it is a huge commitment.

I’ve not heard of giving your Inlaws an allowance. Was this a prior arrangement to getting married.

I don’t understand why you need to support your inlaws.

Why are you supporting them? It doesn’t seem fair. Can they not get a pension or Centrelink benefit?
This is a huge sacrifice to be making.
And no, questioning this does not make you a bad wife.

Tricky to answer without details of why they are your financial responsibility?

I would never! But I’m assuming they can’t access the pension here.

Why are they your financial responsibility? Why can’t they work or get a Centrelink pension. Bit rough that you have to pay for hubby’s parents

Your feelings are valid. Without knowing more details it’s hard to comment further but regardless of the circumstances your feelings are valid.

sorry to say this but i dont feel that =this is your responsibility, life is hard enough without having more dependants, especially in this financial climate.

Is this something you could discuss with your partner?

Honestly can’t give any advice without knowing more details. Why aren’t they on the pension or receiving benefits? Did they not have super? Are they based overseas and this is cultural? I definitely don’t think you are a bad wife or daughter in law for not being happy with it. Was this discussed before you got married? Do your in laws own property and if so can they sell and downsize and use the profit to ease some of your burden?

How are they your financial responsibility? If they’re not working, why aren’t they receiving unemployment benefits, or age pension, or some other support? Perhaps you need to investigate this.

It is nice to help them out but not all the time not in this day and age I used to buy my parents a little grocery order every month just to help them but never money