I’d be questioning the mum you asked to watch her first but honestly if a child needed to go to the toilet and there was nobody else around watching them or there to take her what was the boys mum supposed to do? Say no?

I would only take another child to the toilets if that child’s Mum or Dad knew me and I was taking my own child anyway. I’d never take a strangers child or let a stranger take my child to the toilet

i don’t think i would feel comfortable for that to happen

WEll ther are a lot of No’s here.
Firstly You were asked to look after this child but then you asked another parent who you say you dont know to watch her while you went off to tend to your child. If something had happend the childs parents would have every right to be angry with you as YOU were the one given the responsibility of looking after their child. Its a serious thing when we agree to look after someone else child and that means they must be in our care for the entire time. Its those “ot was only for 2minites” times that things happen. Its harsh but thats what it is. The best option in this case would have been for you to keep the child with you while you tended to your child.

And no I would never take someone elses child to the bathroom unless I was asked to look after them and in this situation you asked this woman to look over this child. As she had to take her child to the bathroom or go herself she took the child you had asked her to watch with her. Her only options were to then fob off the duty to another or take the child with her.

I can see you would be worried when you couldn’t find the little girl, however, it was your responsibility to look after her, so you should have been watching her as well as disentangling your child from the climbing rope. The other mother was attempting to help and managed to stop an embarrassing situation from arising if the child hadn’t gone to the toilet.
I guess because I had more than one child I was forever keeping an eye on all of them, so I wouldn’t have reacted the way you did. After all, it is a difficult position to be in and I would much prefer another mum at the party to have taken one of my children to the toilet if I was unable to do so than the other inevitable outcome.

If they are all apart of the same party/friend group yeah I’d say overreacting.
The other mother was obviously trying to help as the child was needing to go to the bathroom as we all know when children gotta go it’s pretty immediate. And I mean at least she wasn’t left alone in the bathroom. Although if you find it such an ordeal maybe you could have a chat to this lady and explain how you feel and go from there?

As a party guest, I don’t see anything wrong with this. Imagine telling a child to wait or they can’t go to the toilet!!

So the mum was unwell and not there, you walked off to help your daughter and ask another mum friend to watch the child who gave permission to another mum to take the child to the toilet.
When a child needs to go to the topilet it needs to go. At least the child didn’t go alone.

I think this is a bit of an overreact. If you were unavailable or not easy to find, I couldn’t see myself telling the child they needed to wait while I find you. Also, if you make a deal of it you are openly accusing the other mother as being untrustworthy. And, you DID ask her to watch the other girl as well…

If they were all part of the party, then yes I would say you’re overreacting

I would take someone else’s child but would check first or let someone know she was going with us if I couldn’t find anyone. It’s a tricky situation but a well meaning Mum was just helping out. Just a lesson in what can come up.

The child was in your care so can understand to freak out if a random lady you dont know took the girl to the toilet with their own child. If anything, your friend should have accompanied them to the toilet. In this day and age, you can’t stress stranger danger enough. If your friend knew this other mother, fair enough. If its someone randomly met whilst there, its a big trust. At the end of the day, don’t blame you for feeling that way but if a situation like this happens again where your at an outing with someone else’s child, other friends who may be with you, need to be on the same page.

Rather tricky when a child needs to go to the toilet.

Of course it was OK. The girl needed to go. Better than her wandering off by herself to go!

yes totally overreacting …if the person just randomly took the child then yes , but the child needed to go to the toilet and she was taking her son too so said to the other mum that she would take the child …if it was a man then 100% no way but a mum with a child generally ain’t going to be a predator

Well you left your friend to watch the child, so she allowed the other mum to go take the child to the toilet. You should be mad at your friend. The other mum asked to take her to the toilet cause she needed and she was going there too your friend gave permission. If you don’t want randoms doing that don’t leave kids in your friends company as that’s how she rolls.

The mum seemed to have been trying to do the right thing. You left her with someone else to watch. Often mums together try to help each other out. That is what seems to be happening here.

Oh for goodness sake’s! What’s the child to do? Wet herself! First you said you knew the woman and then you say you hardly knew her. Make your mind up. But this is so ridiculous for you to react that way. I’m sorry but these types of stories make me mad because you’re making something out of nothing. You should’ve kept your eye on your friends child in the first place. You had the responsibility of looking after her!! So, chastise yourself!!

The other mum probably asked the child where her mum was. She may have replied in such a way, that this mum thought that the child was there by herself.

I can see both sides to this. I can understand the concern. The initial wave of emotions returning and not seeing your friends child would have been chill inducing. And unfortunately its best to be a big weary these days no matter who it involves. But then it could have been a toilet emergency for the little girl. Personally I wouldn’t do it unless I was known to the child and the parent. Would you consider this other parent a trusted adult to the kids? If not, I would be having that conversation with the kids and maybe telling the kids mum so they can also have that convo.
I don’t think I would find it acceptable if someone did this to my child and I only knew the adult in passing.