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My daughter started prep this year. There is a boy in her class that has taken to hitting her on a daily basis. He does other things like grabbing her from behind and covering her eyes. I spoke to the teachers after my daughter told me about it early on and was told they were aware and were working with the boys parent. Today, my daughter told me she would prefer to die because she gets hit by this boy every day. I will be speaking to the teachers. I understand prep kids are young but I also need to protect my daughter as she should not be getting hit either. The teachers have not said anything more to me which surprises me a little as I would think as a parent I have a right to know from an adult what is going on. When I ask my daughter what the teacher do, she tells me they give kind reminders and talk to his dad. My daughter is too scared to react to the boy (say no loudly or even yell at him) in fear of getting in trouble. Does anyone have any advice in this situation? Is it unreasonable to expect the teachers to keep this child away from my daughter because the hitting happens in class time?


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  • I would be insisting on a sit down with the teacher and other parent, and escalating to a meeting with the principal. It’s absolutely not okay that your child is having to bare the brunt of another kids bad behaviour. You’re doing a great job of advocating for your child.


  • Not good enough.
    As a parent you should be notified by school every time your child is hit and what they do about it..
    I would request a formal meeting with the teacher you and your husband and the principal for a serious chat. School has a duty of care towqards your daughter


  • It seems like it’s at the point where she should hit him back if the teachers aren’t doing much. Really they should be removing him from her classroom.
    I’d tell your daughter to not be scared of getting in trouble as you’ll have her back no matter what.


  • I would be putting the complaint in writing now, to the teacher and copied to the principal. Otherwise you cannot prove you have brought this problem to their attention. Also advise them if nothing happens soon, you will be taking your child to another school. It is not good for your child to start school this way, as she will grow to dislike school. You also don’t need her wishing herself dead rather than keep putting up with this bully’s abuse daily.


  • I’d be putting it in writing to the teacher & principal that this is going on & you need it acted upon.


  • I feel for you – I was bullied as a child and remember my dad going to the kids houses (there was 3 different bullies of varying ages) who lived nearby and speaking to the parents directly. The bullying stopped – not sure if this is an avenue you can take?


  • It’s not your daughters job to quietly take abuse while this child learns how to behave. Tell the teachers you expect them to be separated at all times and fir a teacher to intervene immediately if he approaches her. If they can’t do this as a bare minimum tell them she will be staying home until they can guarantee her safety at school as they are failing in their duty of care. Send an email so you have everything in writing. Start looking for a new school.


  • My daughter was bullied so I had to change schools then she got bullied there so I homeschooled. At least change schools or it will continue. Hope she finds a school that supports anti bullying.


  • First yr at school and having to face this doesnt get her on a right start…enrol her in jiu jitsu or karate so she can do self defense and also, get back at the boy. Meanwhile, the school authorities need to get involved to del with this


  • Tell your daughter to hit him back. He needs to be taught a lesson. My son was bullied at primary school and I wish I had got him boxing lessons. The only way to deal with a bully is to give them a taste of their own medicine back. I know all the do-gooders out there will not agree with this. And the parents of this bully need to do something with him. Maybe he needs counselling.


  • This is really sad and unfortunately it happens a lot these days, so sorry your daughter has to go through this. I’m sure there is more that can be done. Talk to the principal or even take it further to the department. If nothing is done, I would consider changing schools. No child deserves to be treated like this.


  • Further to what every one else has posted…….I believe that it is also important for the teacher, principal and parents to let your daughter know that she has permission to say ‘no’ to this unwanted and violent behaviour.


  • This is very serious. I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. The school should be doing more to stop this. If they don’t take any action can you take it further to the education minister in your state or perhaps move her to a new school?


  • That’s not nice at all. I’d speak to the principle and then if it continues ask for a meeting with the child’s parents.


  • I think you have given the teacher the opportunity to sort this out. As this is getting so much worse, with your daughter, I would be taking this straight to the principal. This needs to be resolved as soon as possible. If the school still doesn’t respond and deal with this correctly and promptly, take it higher. Maybe even speak to your local member. Official complaints need to be made.

    Your daughter should be looking forward to, and enjoying prep, not being so scared that she feels how she does now.

    I hope it is sorted asap.


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