If money isn’t and issue then I would stay with them and enjoy them. Possibly look for other work that is only 1 or 2 days a week so you keep your foot in the door and skills updated. You can always put them in daycare in a few years. Time goes to quickly. Enjoy them.

My daughter was in a similar position also having her 2 boys via IVF – (7 months & 2/1/2) except that money is an issue and she needs to return to work. She left her current employment as she couldn’t and didn’t want to commit to 5 days a week (not worth going back to work with the daycare fees or wanting them in daycare that much) as they didn’t want to take her back part-time. She has now found a position doing the same work 2 days a week. So if money isn’t an issue for you I would leave and find something later.

If money isn’t an issue I would quit the job. Your children are more important and they won’t stay babies forever. The younger years are the best ones. Once they start going to school they become more independent. Enjoy these years while you can. You can always look for a different job that’s perfect for you later.

I would suggest returning for now and seeing how you go. You never know a part time role in the same position or even a different position in the company could come up. If post case it gives you time to look for something else without rushing into another job just go the ask of it

If money isn’t an issue and you’re struggling with the thought of leaving them with other people, then stay home with them. If you would feel happier and more fulfilled to stay home, then that’s your answer. Wait for a time that it will be more comfortable with you and your schedule

These are personal decisions we all have to make. It is hard to advise you in this as it needs to be entirely your decision and in the end we are strangers to you.
I can however share what choice I made myself and that is the choice for the kids. I did stay home when they were little and became a SAHM. Once my kids were going to school we started fostering additional kids and again I stayed home and still am 🙂

Hello! I may not be answering every part of your question, but I thought my perspective might still be helpful. As someone in their early 20s, I really valued having a stay-at-home mum who was present during my childhood, and I feel it had a big influence on who I am today. I notice some differences between myself and my youngest sibling, who grew up while my mum had returned to work. While I can’t say that’s the only reason, I do think parental presence can make a meaningful difference.

So financially if it’s an option, I’d suggest not working for a few years / working reduced hours.

I also don’t think you should feel guilty to go back to work if that’s what you decided knowing you’d quit if it was full time. You have to put yourself and family first and if that’s a boundary you want to set then all for it!

As a returning mum to full time work, the mum guilt never goes away But I think of the fact that they are socialising and gaining skills at daycare that they might not get at home just with me. If money isn’t a big factor, returning later after spending time with them would be good, and then you can slowly start them 2-3 days a week when they start kinder when you want to go back to work part time.