How long after birthing your second baby did it take to go back to a normal sex life? My youngest is 6 months and it’s been that long since my parter and I have had sex. He’s great about it but I feel guilty for having no sex drive. I’m breast feeding as well and I know hormones have a lot to do with it. I guess I’m just hoping it will eventually return haha. Any advice?

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  • Are you on the pill because this can also affect your sex drive. Just give it some more time and in the meantime get your husband to give you some massages etc to help get you in the mood

  • Hormones, lack of sleep, exhaustion… it all plays a part. Be kind to yourself – being a mumma can be really hard/tiring work especially when they are young. Just give it time and in the meantime just try and keep up the closeness with open communication and lots of snuggling until you are feeling ready to get back in the game… which will happen….

  • Stressing about it only worsens the situation. You’ll come good. Sex drive in long term relationships is often up and down, on and off. Stop stressing

  • I have just had my second she is also 6 months I have no idea when it will return to normal for me either I think for me it’s that there is no time for it now with two children I’m always with one of them so maybe when they get older and more independent things will be different

  • Don’t be hard on yourself. Your tired, jugging kids and sometimes it just isn’t a priority. Your body will naturally get back into it. It’s great you have a supportive partner that makes a world of difference

  • Very much the same here, my little girl is close to turning six months old. Im not with her dad, neither of us are seeing anyone else and hes trying to work on himself to make us work. That aside, he’s also very good about it although he has recently just started sending more sex type memes. For me it’s not the lack of sex drive, its more bubs is always with me plus miss 4 still sleeps in my bed so i never feel like theres time or space haha.
    Maybe read a hot heavy chapter of a book or watch a fantacy of yours on the net and suprise him one night.

  • If he is great about it don’t feel guilty. you have enough to worry about at the moment, just get back in to it when it feels good and natural, don’t push yourself to please everyone!

  • Your guess is as good as mine! I had a pretty stressful pregnancy and post-pregnancy, and still haven’t really got any drive yet (quite a bit longer than 6 months) but I am also still breastfeeding a LOT. I’d love to hear answers about this topic.

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