Hi everyone I’m after some advice please. My sister recently got engaged and I’d love to go to her wedding but the problem is my mum will probably be there too. We haven’t spoken in years since she disowned me and bad mouthed me to my family and her friends. I’ve had to cut her off completely because we can never talk without it becoming an argument as she refuses to listen. I’m worried that if I go to my sister’s wedding my mum will start drama while I’m there. What should I do?

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  • you will regret not going to your sisters wedding. maybe take a plus one where you can have a buffer.

  • If your sister invited you just let her know I’d love to come but I don’t want anything to spoil your special day and see if your Mum is definitely going and if your sister has spoken to her about you going too. Take it from there.

  • It totally depends on what your sister wants. If she invites you then you should go. It is important to maintain your relationship with your sibling.

  • If you want to go and, more importantly, your sister wants you there, then both you and your mum should just deal with the situation, give each other a wide berth and don’t spoil your sisters day.

  • I would go. It’s your sister you all grew up together. Mum will understand this.

  • It’s no your special day or your mum’s be respectful and attend if a situation occurs just leave

  • What does your sister want

  • If your sister wants you there, that’s your answer1 Go and enjoy her celebration. You can enjoy the day knowing your invited to her most important day of her life. Your Mum would be feeling the same as you. She will have to behave for the sake of making her daughters day perfect. Just keep your distance from your Mum. Sometimes it takes wedding and babies to bring family’s back together. You could all make up and get on with your lives. (Never forget what happen but accept it as history and move on either way.)

  • Talk to your sister ask her what she would like you to do. If she wants you to go ask her to seat you as far away as possible from her and for your own sake. Do not drink any alcohol! Liquid courage can be the worst thing. If your mum try’s to approach you simply say this isn’t the time or place to discuss any issues we have, we can discuss them another time then walk off

  • I would go and be amicable for your sisters sake. She wants you there.

  • Never let anyone else even family take away your joy. I have found that people tend to behave at events because it is public.

  • If your sister has invited you, then she really wants you there. So it’s worth going. I’d just make sure you keep space between you and your mother so as not to give her an opportunity to start anything. I’d just keep to family and friends you know you can be yourself with.

  • If your sister invited you then you need to go there for her. Try to stay away from your Mother and explain to your sister you will only be staying for the Wedding vows and, if there is too much tension or trouble from you mother then let your sister know you will leave so her day doesn’t get sullied by your mother. I’m so sorry you’ve been placed in this situation though.

  • You could go to the service and after speaking to your sister just leave

  • I have been in a similar situation with a family member at a wedding. I went to the wedding because the person getting married was the priority for me. I refused to let anyone else impact on our happiness and experience. The wedding was terrific and I refused to engage in any drama.

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