You need to tell her indeed that you don’t believe in this way of disciplining yourself and don’t want her to do it when she looks after your child. Since it’s your mother in law I would go in conversation about this together with your husband, since it’s his mum.

Routine!!! When smacked, pull a sad face and tell bub/child “Ouch, I don’t like that it hurts mummy!” And then time out 1minute for each year of age.

I would say exactly what Ann_Boyd has already said.

Personally ,talk to her. I don’t smack other people’s kids ,it’s up to parent .Matbe ,give her advice on how u disipline ur child .Then she knows how .

well i think that there will be some element of offense, because indirectly you would be saying to the lady, your method is wrong. Approach the subject and just tell her that you would rather that she didn’t smack but continue with whatever method of discipline that you already use. Explain that you have to be continous with it so that she will learn and hopefully the mother-in-law will assist you. Thank her for co-operating with you

I think honesty is the best policy. As a mother you should be able to talk to your mother in law and tell her how you feel without her getting upset, and if she does that is her problem.

just tell her and tell her how you deal with it and thats how you would like her to deal with it

there are some good comments here

You are the mother and she needs to step back and respect your parenting methods. Sit down over a cup of tea snd let her know what you are and are not ok with

You need to tell her to stop, as others have said,they are your children, yes she may be looking after them, but that doesn’t make it ok for her to smack them no matter what.

You need to tell her to stop. They are not her children, they are yours so she NEEDS to follow YOUR parenting rules! If you smack children, you are teaching them that it is ok to smack people.

As hard as it is you just need to be firm and tell her. Explain to her your reasoning and hope that she will listen. Good luck!

You just need to bite the bullet and tell her. While she is helping out with babysitting, she is still not the parent and she must care for her in a way that doesn’t threaten your relationships.

You need to sit down and have a talk with her about what kinds of discipline you are ok with. Offer her ideas of things that you find work well so she still feels that she has the tools to keep your daughter behaving when in her care. Just remember, that this is the tool that she most likely used as a first line of defense when raising her children and it was a lot more common then as well

Me personally I believe if someone is looking after your child they should follow your rules. If people can not follow them I wont allow them to look after my child. There are already a number of people that I will not allow to look after my son. As I don’t feel comfortable with them looking after him. But I would talk to her about how your feeling first if you stop letting her look after your child without explaining why could cause some problems. Openly discussing your child’s welfare is the number one issue and should feel comfortable with people looking after them

Look after your child yourself. I am pro smack on the hand myself (not beltings). But if you have a problem with it tell her.

This is a very difficult one.
Firstly I understand where you are coming from BUT when you are asking someone to look after your child then you are handing your child over to someone else rules. You have a right to express your wishes but the reality of it is that you really need to discuss things like this with whoever is to look after your child and if you dont agree with their rules and way of doing things then you are best to find someone else to look after the child. This is especially true if you are not paying for the babysitting. If you are paying then you have more right to state that things be done your way. Its very different to leave your child in someones care and have them smack your child then if they happened to be at your home and the child was in your care and someone else smacked them…that is very wrong.

Its very difficult as you are in a a tough spot at the moment. You could try speaking to your MIL and hopefully she wont be offended or you could just find someone else to care for your daughter but that could also offend your MIL.
I hope you can find a way to sort this out without causing any family upset but the positive thing is that in the future you will be aware of the questions to ask before leaving your children with someone.
Ive always told people that if they want me to look after their kids then they will be treated the same way as my own children would so if they are not happy with that then they are not to leave their kids with me.
If you talk to your husband about how he was raised that will give you an idea of your MIL’s rules and discipline.

You are well within your rights to calmly discuss this issue with her. If you can’t agree, perhaps you may need to look at an alternate care arrangement so you can ensure there is no smacking? Good luck 🙂

You will have to raise this very carefully if you don’t want to fall out with your mother in law, how does your husband feel about this? could he talk to his mother instead of you? otherwise when you raise it and stress that you don’t want smacking at all give her some alternatives to deal with the behaviour, a load clap and no! for example.

Point out that pain isnt a way to teach a child
They are doing something they shouldn’t.
A reason and directon to what they are suppose
To be doing is the answer.