This is really not ok, I understand he works long hours but he should not be talking to you like this or treating you like this. If it is possible when he has time you should talk to him about this, but if you think that he wont be interested in this conversation then perhaps some counselling my help.
Again if he wont be open to counselling and trying to change his behaviour it may be time for you to get some support to make some important decisions for your own happiness.

Being tired and cranky is one thing, but being hostile/name calling and not acknowledging his behaviour is worrisome. You both need to let the other know what is acceptable behaviour and what isn’t. I hope everything improved for both of you and your family.

Maybe don’t put do much effort into waiting for him. Get out and do your own thing. Text him to grab takeaways on the way home. Maybe suggest a visit to the GP. It could be a whole multitude of possibilities causing his anger. From an incorrect diet, to lacking vitamins, to just being tired, to mental health issues that need recognising. Your GP is a good place to start

I hope you’ve found a resolution. It’s hard when one is tired and cranky all the time.

I hope you and your husband were able to work things out.

I can understand it as mine works long hours but he can cook for himself as he is one so guess that is lucky . Mine can be horrible too when cranky and so many times I think will it change or call it quits . What I did was I changed my routine and my attitude to take a bit of my own responsibilty . Can you cook extras so that you and kids eat first ( early if possible ) then enough for today and tomorrow . Do the essentials only so that you are not left totally drained to cook . I developed a daily routine and just stuck to it . I think name calling is not acceptable so talk to someone professional on how to handle it if it continues. Hope it works out soon .

It’s hard isn’t it. He sounds stressed, overworked but taking it out on you isn’t right.
A dinner out, weekend away, are all bandaide solutions. Not longterm.
Are you happy, content, ok?
If none of these have you thought of counseling for yourself, marriage.
Is there ever going to be a change to this behavior?
Separation can be solution for some.
Was for me.

You just need to sit with him and tell it like it is. If you can’t start making slow cooker meals that way it’s ready by 4pm and you can just have it on low till he gets home. When you hear him pull in the drive rip out a bowl/plate and bam… Honestly I’m joking. Stuff him! You are not his maid and making you have dinner ready when he gets home… Blah. Maybe ask him in the morning what time he will get home? If he doesn’t answer tell him what time you will have dinner ready so that way if it’s cold or not cooked yet it’s his fault. You told him. Try get angry at him instead.

Oh I know what you mean, I cop the same some days.

i hope it has gotten better now?

your not a slave, tell him to call when he is leaving work and then his dinner can be ready when he gets home

maybe he needs to work less hours if possible

Sounds like he is having some troubles with coping with certain issues and is taking his anger out at home. If it’s just the dinner he is getting upset about, tell him to call as he leaves work so you can judge the time to have dinner ready for him. Although I think it would be more helpful in the long run to have his issues sorted.

I would follow him home from work just to make sure what he is getting up too, or even drop down to his work at the time he used to get home, if everything is is good then I would maybe sugest getting a mate to have a talk to him, they may get more answers than you.

if you have a good doctor talk to them as they or I now ours does if we say something about Hubby will casually bring it up with him and than see what stresses he is under and if he is copping. You could try marriage counselling but Hubby would have to agree. I first would rule out medical as he may need some anti dress and you might as well or you may benifit from just a good chat with your GP

I would be looking into some counselling or something for him. It sounds as if he isn’t coping very well and you need someone to mediate the conversations you have

maybe try talking to him?

Perhaps you suggest he go to the Dr for a checkup. This happened with us, turned out my husbands new pain medication had sent him into a mild depression . We also found it helped to plan a holiday or even a day out , something to save for a reward for all his hard work.
Don’t let it fester as it is impacting you & your daughter, from experience this may lead you to resent you husband.

Is he over worked , he could be just overtired. Do you work , maybe a part time job could ease the pressure off him , Other then that maybe more quality time together alone.

My husband was like this,until 4 month ago .he was working 7 days a week ,and very stressed from work due to the amount of pressure put on him.i used to hate it when he came home it was like walking on egg shells around him. He went to the doctors after he realised there was a problem and found out he was suffering from depression . He has been taking medication for it and what a difference it has made .hardest part will be getting him to go to the doctors .Goodluck I hope it all works out.