Awww I hate this topic. Its so controversial. As a child myself I wet the bed until I was 14 years old, my parents tried everything from drugs to therapy to my dad setting an alarm every hour to get me up. Of my own 6 children, 3 wet til their early teens & I did nothing but wait til it just stopped. I truly believe it sorts itself if there is no underlying nervous condition.

Its not uncommon for kids to take a lot longer to work out night time toilet training. Their kidneys need to mature enough to send messages to their brain to wake up. The best success I had was with cloth nappies and he would wake up during the night during lighter sleep stages of his sleep cycle and still felt wet rather than with disposables where they still feel dry when they wake up. It still took a few months but gradually he was waking up dry more and more.

My boy wet the bed regularly till he was about 10. We encouraged him not to drink after 6 or so and brought him to the toilet before we went to bed ourselves. At the moment I’ve a 9 year old girl in care who was wearing pull ups during the night when she came and despite of wearing the pull ups still wet the bed. I started with a reward chart for being dry, took the pull up away and started waking her up around 2am (she’s a very deep sleeper as well and we can’t get her awake around 11pm). She doing well on this, but at this age you would like her to be able to have control over it herself, especially when she’s placed back into the care of her dad. In her case we got a referral for an incontinence nurse, referral to get an ultrasound of bladder and kidneys, referral for a consult by the peadiatrician and I’m going to order an alarm clock for bed wetting, which you can get online in a bed wetting shop. In the meantime drinking more in the daytime is very important. Going on time to the toilet during the day is important too (never when you’re busting !), as well as making sure the stools are soft enough. Exercises like laying down with a full bladder and pushing softly on your bladder before going to the toilet, can be very helpful to learn the feel of a full bladder at night.