Unfortunately not much can be done until he sees the alcohol as a problem. If he starts to see it as a problem then he can work on it, until then the behaviour is likely to continue. You may be able to seek out services to help you for support on what to do to help yourself.

Contact Al-Anon for support. They are their to help families and friends of someone whose drinking is a problem, regardless if they acknowledge they have a problem or not.

To redraw a loan for alcohol is a big warning sign, speak with someone you love and trust and go from there

Unfortunately the fact he is drinking so early and having issues getting money for alcohol (& leaving children alone) makes it sound like there is an issue. Does he work? Is he a shift worker that runs on different hours? There are many factors that may contribute but it sounds like you need him to have a chat to someone, maybe men’s helpline or a gp to begin with?

That sounds like a problem with the sneaking around. I reall6 feel for you as it’s difficult to get someone with a drinking issue to believe and admit they do have one. Is there a reason why he drinks lloke stress or grief? Perhaps you try get him to talk to a counsellor for the stress/grief or the issue and they would see how he deals with it and identify the drinking doesn’t help????
Good luck

I would say yes,a cartoon can last up to 2 weeks and he is hiding it from you.l would talk to him seriously.

He has a problem and he cant see it. I am just glad that nothing happend to kids when he was out. You need to talk to him, look for help.i am pretty sure he doesnt want to loose kids for a stupid mistake but what if someone will call social services and tell then the kids are alone ect.

I believe your husband has a problem, not only with his drinking but also with deceiving you. This isn’t going to go away in a hurry because you can’t help a heavy drinker unless they want help. I know someone close to me who was in denial for 40 years until a medical condition changed his attitude – and his drinking habits. I really feel for you and hope you somehow find a solution.

I can completely understand. My hubby’s a big drinker were I crack it. He can easily spend $30-$40 a day on beer etc. I have said that he is our children’s male role model and he’s setting them up to fail. I told him to pick up his game as he should be thinking more about he’s family then worrying about Alcohol. He cuts right back for about a week then goes right on back

Sounds indeed he has a problem. Lots of addictions com e with denial which makes it difficult to have a reasonable chat and seek help as without motivation you can’t be helped.
What you could do is find support yourself though. I would try to have a gentle chat with him as well in which you share your concern.

It does sound that your husband has an issue and you have every reason to be concerned. I am not sure what you do in that type of situation, however I think your GP (if you have a good one) might be able to help and provide advice.

It looks like a big problem indeed. But if he doesn’t realize that, he can’t be helped. My father used to drink a lot. And it wasn’t pretty at all. Alcohol damages not only your health, but your relationships.

may be even if you are considering that it might be a problem, then it might be worth checking out.

Sounds like a big problem to me and you Have a tough decision on your hands (him too)

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Your husband needs to understand that alcohol can damage his liver to the extent that he develop a alcohol induced liver disease which could develop into liver failure. Does he want to ruin his family’s life??? Do any of the guys want constant stomach problems or even Liver Cancer?? Remind them all that the alcohol money should be paying for other necessities including food and electricity to keep food cold.

It sounds like a big problem to me. Redrawing money from a loan because he can’t go without is a big issue.

If you’re asking this question, it’s a problem. If he’s hiding it from you – which seems to be the case – it’s a problem. If you can’t afford it and are effectively taking out a loan to pay for it – the redraw – it’s a problem.

I constantly have this argument with my hubby. He’s a heavy drinker, usually downing over half a carton of beer or a 750ml bottle of spirits in one sitting, often when he has work the next day. He claims to not have a problem as he doesn’t drink every day, which is true, thank god for his job preventing this. On his days off, he’s drinking for 12 or more hours a day, sitting up til the early hours of the morning drinking til he passes out. He’s not sneaky about it tho, that’s a bonus as I know exactly how much he’s spending on alcohol. He had blood tests done a couple of years ago, showing a liver function issue. He told the Dr it was probably because of the binge he had the day before. Didn’t admit to his excessive drinking tho. The Dr wanted a follow up blood test to check but hubby won’t go

I’m so sorry your having to go through this. It definitely does sound like he has a problem, I think that maybe talking to a drug and alcohol dependence councillor is the best place to start, then taking what you learn to him, even getting them to accompany you to help talk to him. Wishing you the best of luck

He definitely has a problem. If you have spoken to him and he tells you its ridiculous he is covering it up by making you doubt yourself. Try tough love and explain he needs to do something as you are not prepared to sit around and watch the money disappear or your children exposed to it.