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My son is 7 years old and I’ve noticed the signs for a while that he might have ADHD. We’ve changed schools a couple of times and each time I’ve been taken aside and talked to about his behaviour. I feel under an enormous amount of pressure to make this right. Any advice would be greatly appreciated to help us cope as a family and help my son.

Posted anonymously, 15th April 2014

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  • My sister in law had this trouble with her son. He was extremely disruptive at school and on the school bus with his aggressive behaviour. The school got him to see a professional and he wanted to put him on meds. My sister in law refused, his bad behaviour continued through out school. She didn’t want to drug him but also wasn’t prepared to try alternative options, such as diet changes and certain exercises. He has grown into an angry, destructive young man as a result

  • I relate totally ,were Carers of grandson ,he’s very active & uncontrolable .Im seeing C.A.mP.s to try ,different ways to deal with his behaviours .this may help too .

  • if your worried get him tested or at least get a referral to a specialist but don’t worry so much about labeling your son. some people see things in kids behavior that isnt there. only take notice if its a specialist saying so.

  • the online test sounds like a good start and maybe seeing a doctor for referrals

  • he might just be having trouble settling in, it is traumatic to move a child when they are in school especially if it has happened a few times

  • My sister is a special ed teacher and has mentioned to me in the past that there are online tests you can do before seeking further help. Try googling ADHD online test and run through some of the questions and see what response you get from those.

  • have you had him tested, i think a doctor can point you in the right direction

  • Have you had him assessed? That is the first step, once this is confirmed then there are a lot of support groups who can help. Try this first

  • Just wondering yummymum did you take action against that school for hitting your son I’m the face? That is an absolutely disgraceful action on behalf of that teacher and I hope they were disciplined appropriately.

  • I have 3 violent ADHD kids at the end of the day no amount of doctors can help I’ve had child protection in my life for a good part of 5 years due to schools and other people not understanding them medications can only help for so long my eldest is now 14 and refuses to take medications and the same with my 13 year old my 5 year old is nt medicated and to be honest it does nt get easier it gets harder as they get old older you can not learn from text books or brochures they are base every child the same and not one ADHD child is the same my thoughts are with you and your family it is hard and not many people understand what it is really like unless they have ADHD or deal with someone that has it

  • I would see the doctor and see what services he can recommend to make this less stressful for all

  • hi there. my son was diagnosed at an early age even as a baby he uses to bang his head on the floor quite hard at times so i took him see a specialist who done some special test .just a bit of important info don’t just go to your local Dr because they are not equipped to make a diagnosis. All the best and good luck.

  • If you are worried go and see a doctor and get referred to a specialist. There are a lot of children who are diagnosed by GP’s who don’t actually have it. Another option is to see a really good Natropath. People underestimate the chemical effect foods can have on the brain. Good luck.

  • My son is 7 and was diagnosed with ADHD and behavioral issues last year when he was 6. This was an incredibly tough time for all our family (not just us, extended family also)
    The first thing you need to do is, go and see your GP and get a referral to a Paedatrican – find one with experience in this area – we were lucky to find one where we are who has ADHD himself. Take as much information about your sons schooling experience as you can (we got a letter from my son’s Prep Teacher to explain just when he was like) It’s a 6mth process, yes it sounds as long as it is :(
    My son is now medicated and it has been the best this for him, even though people think I am a nasty parent for doing so and it certainly wasn’t an easy choice, we exhausted EVERY avenue before turning to this one – it really is for his own good and to get him further in life. He won’t be on it forever, just until he is ready come off it. Where he could barely read, write, and do things for himself… he is now excelling and happy.

    Do what you think is right, only you can make those choices for him. You are his mum, you know him best :)
    All the best, please feel free to contact me if you would like to chat :)

  • I think as the others have said you need to go and see you Gp and get him refered to be tested at least then you will have an answer and can then get the help that he needs.
    Good luck with your journey :)

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