I see this is an old question, how did you go with this over the years ?

I think you need to sit your husband down for a serious chat. I think your hubby needs to set some boundaries or she will destroy your relationship. She’s obviously craving attention and not liking the fact she has to share but she’s old enough to understand not to interfere with your conversations. As for her asking for him to sleep in her bed she needs to stop. I do t see nothing wrong with your hubby laying and chatting with her before bed but I think he needs to leave after that. She is the child and needs to be guided on what’s acceptable and what’s not.

I think you are right to be concerned. If your partner doesn’t see a problem with some of this behaviour then that is a problem too. I would want to sort it out before moving on with him. I hope you were able to find a solution.

This girl seems to have issues and if it’s making you, and her dad, uncomfortable then something needs to be done. She is definitely too old to be sharing a bed with her dad

I notice this was posted in 2013, so I hope everything worked out well for you and your family.

Sharing a bed at that age seems strange,l hope it all worked out for you.

I would agree a dad sharing his 12yo daughters bed is creepy, even though I knew of a nan who shared his mums bed til he was 14 :/ :0 I hope you have sorted this problem. I would say she us feeling insecure and needs a lot of reassuring that her dad will always be there for her, but she needs to stop her odd behaviour

Yes! Maybe it is a jealousy thing!

Sorry but this is NOT normal for that to be happening and hope you and your partner can work this out and find a solution to this behavior.

he needs to see this for what it is, it isn’t normal and he needs to take a good look at this relationship

She is obviously jealous. he does need to talk to her and get her to understand the relationship status of all. that there are different types of love etc.

If her father has not been a major part of her life for a while, but is now, then she may just be trying to make up for lost time. However, this would only be normal during the early stages of her living with you. Once she’s been there a while, a more appropriate relationship routine should be established. Continue to try and speak with your partner as communication is the key to any successful relationship.

I think it is a bit of a jealousy thing. She may be thinking that if her dad loves you then she will be slowly taken out of his life so is trying to hang on to him as much as she can. I think don’t give it to much thought and don’t let it bother you. She will learn to accept you in time and realise you are not stealing her father away.

maybe she just misses him heaps and dnt want him to leave

Maybe it is a jealousy thing, but the whole situation sounds alarm bells for me, it just is not right.