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I want another baby, but my hubby is completely against it. Our relationship struggled a lot with our first, but now things seem back on track. We have talked about it for several months and hubby’s opinion hasn’t changed. Any ideas or suggestions? Should I accept that its just us?

Posted anonymously, 22nd January 2014

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  • I think it needs to be mutual decision

  • My son is the same as your hubby. There first born had issues with feeding and sleeping for the first two years, it’s kinda put him off going back for seconds

  • There are a few determining factors on this one, how old is Bub now? Is your relationship strong enough to go through another baby are you financially able to support another child? Who knows your hubby may change his mind in 6 month to a year?

    It’s tricky, good luck!

  • That is a hard one that only you can decide unfortunately. Is your desire for another baby something which is going to impact your relationship in a negative way? What are his reasons?
    We were in the same situation and had another child, which causes issues now, especially during times of stress when he tells me he never wanted our children.
    Do what is right for you both

  • At 48 my first 2 are 2 & a half yrs apart they grew up with each other ,my kids are now 28 26 20 &73/4 ,the worst thing with the last 2 is they didn’t have someone there age to play with,you have one life,closer together is better but another baby will put pressure on a relationship that has struggled previously.

  • Really interesting reading the comments on this!

  • I would leave the issue for a while maybe 6 months or so and come back to it. If you keep pushing he will resist more. If you give it a bit of time he may be more open when you broach the issue again. Also look at all the other factors people have mentioned such as affordability. Just remember chances are you have time to have another child but once you have bub that’s it.

  • How many do you have now? Look at the pro’s and con’s, can you afford another child, can you cope and accommodate another child without moving, How many siblings does your husband have as this can have an effect on how many children he wants as if he was one of many he may feel that he missed out on things because there were to many children, I know material things are not the most important but we all want the best for our children and he may think that not having any more is the best way for the existing children, I would certainly look at seeking professional counselling before having more children as you do not want to be raising children by yourself as a single parent, I have done that and it is not easy.

  • If it’s what you want, then fight for it! Write down the pro’s and cons. Make him look at your list, ask him to add to it. good luck!

  • My partner always wanted 2 so we were lucky that we both agreed on that. This is something that you are both going to have to agree with or it could put another strain on the relationship. Always remember that some people can’t have any so your first one is really special. Good luck & I hope it all works out for both of you & the little one.

  • he might change his mind – i have

  • sit him down and tell him the first was hard, but you know what your doing now and a 2nd will be good for your child

  • I think if bringing another baby in to this world both parents need to agree and want the baby. If there is a risk of your husband feeling any resent towards the baby it would make it a very unhappy family for all involved.

  • Having a baby has to be a joint decision and no matter how hard it is to accept his decision I think you have to respect it.
    If the shoe were on the other foot and it was you that didn’t want the baby but he kept going on about it how would you feel.
    It could also push you apart if you just fell pregnant.

  • This is a hard one. You have to think about it carefully, if your husband does not want another child then if you go and get pregnant, he may leave you, but on the other hand you want another one so how about making it look like an accident lol totally agree with him that you do not want another baby, tell him he is right ( they love that) and do not bring it up again, then get pregnant you can always blame the antibiotics if you are on the pill. He cannot get upset with you that way.

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