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Any suggestions for dealing with post-partum depression? Being told it’s normal and you’ll get over it is not helpful.

Posted by mom74959, 29th April 2015

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  • Talk to your gp and ask for help. If they tell you you’ll get over it, find another gp! While some people get over it, some don’t and I wouldn’t run the risk of not getting professional help. Well done on acknowledging a problem. That is the first step to fixing it. Good luck!

  • I had sereve PND with my first and I am sorry but you WONT JUST GET OVER IT. I had ppl to tell me to pull but boot laces up and get on with it. So your not alone! Please go see your GP and tell them everything your feeling – BE HONEST! Dont hold back! I was at a point before help I was so deep and lost I tried to take my life. so be honest! they cant help if they dont know exactly whats going on. If you have a best friend who is non judgemental open up to them! getting it out how u are feeling is OK. Trust me I thought when I told my friend when my baby cried it made my heart sink so much I wish I could put a pillow over her (I never did, but its how i felt) me sharing that with her meant she could really support me when I was so alone. I went on mediciation which I was on for about 8-12 months before I eased off. You are NOT ALONE – your an amazing mum too (just incase you feel your not) Please seek help <3 if you want to talk Im on FB under Sam Minshull – plz feel free to pm me xx GOODLUCK

  • Talk with your GP you might need some antidepressants. They can help with some therapy also. I did and got help with my ppd and never felt better.

  • Have to spoken to your GP ? Don’t delay asking, the longer you leave it the longer the recovery may take. Would your Mum or MIL mind the little one/s while you have some “me” time? One of my work colleagues used to mind the children for at least a few hours on Saturdays for her to have some time to herself. She reckoned sometimes it was great just to go shopping alone, or go for a walk in a park, along the beach or whatever she chose that she enjoyed. If you are offered help, if you can accept it, even if it is only for a short time, even if it is just to do your washing & bring it in and fold it for you to put it away – or even put it away if they know where it goes.

  • You may think you’ve gotten over it but it’s just like sweeping the dust under the carpet. Talking about it to friends or family, see your GP or even being on an internet forum about it can help. If it’s not delt with it can get worse later on, just remember alot of woman go through the same thing so it’s not something to be shamed apon.

  • It is not something you will get over on your own.
    Ignore the shame and guilt you may feel about having post partum depression, you did not choose this and you certainly not accept that you have to live with this.
    I have been there and it can be a very dark and lonely place.
    Please speak to your husband so he knows what you are going through. It\\\’s so easy to assume that they can see what\\\’s going on but sometimes they don\\\’t.
    Get out of a morning and go for a walk with the kids, the fresh air, sunshine and vitamin D will do you good.
    I know it\\\’s probably the last thing you feel like doing but excercising will get the happy endorphins flowing and make you feel a bit better.
    Eat healthy, comfort eating bad foods will only make you feel even worse.
    Organise someone to mind the kids and try and have a regular date night with hubby so you can dress up, do your hair and makeup and feel good about yourself.
    And lastly ask for help! Something I was guilty of when suffering PND I would push people away and put on a big charade that I was a super mum, but I was the furthest thing from it.
    We all need help so accept any offers for help, big or little. Or just ask. It\\\’s ok to feel over whelmed and in need of a break.
    Even a quick trip down to the coffee shop for 10mimutes without the kids will do you the world of good.
    Don\\\’t put too much pressure on yourself and please go and see your gp. Sending you lots of love, virtual kisses and cuddles. You are not alone xx

  • Are you part of a playgroup with mums and kids the simular age? I have been part of my group for seven years now and we still rely on eachother a lot for all the tough times in life. It has really helped boost my confidence in my ability to be a good mum.(and made some friends for life,at times i didnt want to go to the catchups and thats when i new i need help,) I also went through a really tough patch a while ago. I realised i needed help and am now on medication. If you are breast fedding talk to your doctor and he can find a sutible one that in a few weeks might lift the cloud that you feel trapped in. I went to the doctor with out any kids with me and just balled out my eyes to the doctor, he saw i was struggling to cope and reffered me to some one i could talk to. (i was put on a medicare plan to make it affordable) I got 6-10 visits which we just talked about everything in life and helped me believe in myself.
    If its cold rug up bubs and google any free local activities that you can go to, getting out of the house when you can keeps your mind busy. Some local library’s have story time where they read books to the kids and have activites afterwards, it free. Some councils have playgroups where you go have a coffee with other mums and the bubs can do activites or just roll around among other bubs with toys. for a gold coin fee.
    Dont be afraid to let people who care about you know what you are going through. That way if you are down they can support you. If you can afford it treat yourself to little treats like a manicure of pedicure or some time off from bubs. Even try putting bubs in daycare one day a week so you can have some you time. You Deserve it.

  • Go and see your GP. It is not something you just ” get over”. You may need some medication or a referral to a psychologist. Please get help. It will make you feel better.

  • seek social i attended a place called Torrens House in ADELAIDE TO ASSIST ME cope.

  • Did you try to talk to your GP ?

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