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should adult children pay for their own wedding

Posted anonymously, 14th August 2019

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  • My husband and I paid for our own. I would not have expected money from our parents.

  • I don’t think parents should have to pay. Depending on the family it may be different but there was no way I was expecting or wanting my parents to pay for my wedding. I felt bad enough when my dad wanted to cover the bar tab (although my wedding was only 15 people total)

  • Yes I think adult children should pay for their own wedding. No hair on my head was thinking I’ll approach my parents when I married !

  • It is up to the couple and parents to discuss.

  • Depends on each family but as an adult i wouldnt want my parents to pay for my wedding.

  • I don’t think they should.But they can contribute some if they can.

  • I guess if the parents can afford it they could pay (notice I didn’t say should, I don’t think it’s their duty). If I am in a situation to help pay for my kids wedding I’ll be more than happy to help out.

  • It’s up to the parents if they want to help and up to the couple if they want to accept. Whatever works for them doesn’t matter about other people.

  • I think it’s still expected of the daughters parents but they need to set a limit on how much they are willing to pay. Some brides expect an exorbitant amount to be spent on their fairytale wedding.

  • Yes, they should especially if they are living out of home

  • No I don’t think you can expect so. I think it’s normal that adult children pay this themselves, but of course when parents want to toss in that can be a blessing to the children.

  • Our parents wanted to contribute money towards our wedding which we were very grateful for, but paid the rest, it all depends on the individuals and the families, if we can help our kids when they decide to get married I’ll happily help them out.

  • I think perhaps if the parents didn’t pay the children would rethink their wedding plans! Weddings are so damn expensive. Our parents each gave a set amount and we payed the remainder.

  • I had this conversation with my Mum recently. I wouldnt want her to pay for mine. I work, my partner works. Helping out in other ways for the big day means more to me.

  • I don’t think so, my husband and I payed for everything for our wedding and we were in our mid 20s.

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