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I’m due in 7 weeks and my 2 year old son couldn’t care less about the baby.  I’m worried he’s going to freak out when I have the baby, what can I do to help him get used to the idea so it’s not too much of a shock.

Posted anonymously, 8th July 2014

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  • I found involving my 2 year old in bringing bub home really helped. Help carry things to the car, put baby in car seat, give baby dummy, open car door, open front door etc
    It really depends on your sons temperament. I’m sure it will come

  • i let her watch youtube with babies on it. she was so interested. when bub came out, she loved him so much and was just excited. =)

  • I hope its all going well and that your son loves the baby.

  • Not to sure but I hope other mums can help you. Good luck.

  • nature is a funny little thing,he will get excited in due course,include him in touching your tummy,baby,s new furniture,if u feel u must buy him a doll that looks close to a babydo so….perhaps he,s just not into babies,yet.i have a feeling it will all turn out fine.dont worry yourself.

  • I think it’s a bit hard for a child of that age to comprehend something they can’t see. It will come once the baby is here. We bought our 2yo a baby doll to play with when we had our baby, It was very cute watching him try to breast feed his baby!

  • For a 2yr old it wont become real until the new bub is actual home. Get him to choose a toy/present to take to the hospital to present to bub when he meets he/she for the first time, but also make sure you have something that can be “from the baby” for him too. I wouldnt worry to much it will all work out fine.

  • make sure your son is helps you like at change time get him to help powder the baby, get the baby a nappy, and if you are bottle feeding get him to sit beside and help you hold the bottle also if you are sitting down put him up on your lap for cuddles and he may get the chance to feel bubby kicking as well if bu will have a dummy get him to give baby the dummy. Keep talking to him about the baby and if you know what it is and have picked a name than call baby buy it’s name and talk to him about how great it will be that he will be a big brother. Some kids don’t get to involved until after baby is here. get him involved by talking to him all the time about his new baby will be coming soon and will be living with you and Mummy and Daddy and his big brother. if he accidentally hurts you tummy let him know he hurt his Bubby and get him to give your tummy a hug and a kiss and say sorry bubby. Also if you are doing any thing in the baby’s room bet him to help you

  • Don’t stress all will fall into place when the baby comes home. Little ones are just happy in the moment so use this time to teach number one how to play by himself so you can feed the new born. Get some toys that can be played whilst you sit and feed and nurse baby to sleep. Purchase some new books and tell your two year old these are for the new baby and we must read to him/her. Just enjoy the time you have now you will never get this time again. Enjoy!

  • When I was pregnant with my second child I talked to him about having a baby brother or sister. Include him in buying maybe a small soft toy for him. Wrap it up and when the baby comes he may (and I say May) be a bit more interested. Don’t forget to get him a gift from the newborn. However when my third child came, my second son wasn’t at all interested. He and his brother came to see the baby. My eldest stood there and cooed over my new daughter, but my second son took a glimpse at her and turned to his father and asked him if he could go and play on the swings outside the hospital in the park. Over the years my second son has become very protective of his little sister, so I wouldn’t worry yet about his attitude. He just needs to be himself.

  • My mum told me that my brother was exactly the same, couldn’t care less that mummy was pregnant with me and even when I was born he didn’t’ care. Mum said its a boy thing and they will in their own time.

  • To him its not a reality. He’s happy in his own little world. Its only when he’ll see the baby & then realise it’s coming home with you all that the reality will hit. I’m sure there will be an adjustment phase but as long as you are still focusing on him, he’ll be excited about the new addition.

  • Very hard for a 2 year old to really understand what having a sibling will be like. Talking about the new arrival will help and when that happens, remember to include your first born – very easy for everyone to focus on the newborn and forget the other children. Make a fuss of your 2 year old when the baby is born so that he doesn’t have reason to be jealous etc.

  • Let it happen naturally, when my second child was born my son was 13months and loved his little sister; he wanted to hold her and kiss her ten years later a bit of a different story your older child will be interested in your interest’s have fun; you will soon see having two is a bit different, but I’m sure you will do great!!!

  • try & get your 2 year old to rub your belly, feel it kick etc.
    But try not to worry, once the baby is born it will be different. My eldest child was nearly 2 when we had out son, she was not interested at all. She wouldn’t even give me a cuddle or go near me when I was in hospital after giving birth. But once I get home she was wonderful. Helped (as much as a 20mth could!) with her new brother. It was really beautiful

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