22 Answers

We live on one wage so can not afford interstate holidays or overseas. I have actually enjoyed not seeing my friends post pics of their holidays as when I do I feel guilty my kids don’t get the same. I save hard for local holidays once a year. How can I stop feeling jealous of people that can give this to their kids? Those people don’t realise how lucky they are.

Posted by Jujubear79, 20th December 2021

Want more real mum questions sent to you?

You'll need to check this email to complete your signup.
Ask your question
  • I am jealous as well of other people holidays but I can have a choice to see my partners overseas once a 2-3yaers or to go on holidays every year…family first

  • Your kids would probably love to go camping. Even in the backyard. Try and factor day trips, or weekend trips into your budget. There are tons of free camp sites around. I think there’s an app that has some.
    You could look into house sitting, or house swapping.
    Itsnotthe cost or extravagance kids will remember. It’s the fun they had.

  • Overseas and interstate holidays aren’t the be all and end all. What is really important to you and your kids? Probably not the destination, but the quality of the time spent somewhere.

  • It sure can be hard, but please, be happy and proud of you and your family. Do things locally if you can. Your time will come for the long awaited holiday.

  • I think you need to (for your own peace of mind) remove the source of you knowing about the holidays of others. Out of sight, out of mind. Kids love making memories with you, good quality time no matter where you are together is what they will remember.
    I honestly would walk away from social media and invest your energy into things that lift you up, not down.

  • Make your own memories. There’s no point in trying to keep up with the Joneses – it’ll only make you unhappy. Local holidays are good and there are some people who can’t even afford to go on a local holiday – so you’re very lucky in that respect. Focus on what you DO have.

  • make your own memories, we went camping in the jungle. Tent in the backyard with lots of stuffed animals placed all over the yard. a small blow up pool filled with water and bubble bath for the “foam” when the waterfall hits the rocks. My kids aged 3 to 16 had fun. We went on a tiger hunt, Use imagination, story books, pinterest and take photos. My teenagers now still remember the fun they had and yes we have done it again. Though I would stay away from the “rainforest” as it took me a week to dry everything out but luckily we were rescued that night and had comfy beds to sleep in. yet the kids still loved it as we used our imaginary boat to get back inside. remember it is your family memories that are important not someone elses credit account balance

  • Just focus on yourselves and having the best time on your holidays. Your local holidays are more then many can afford and just as enjoyable as overseas ones. Stop comparing to others and seeing what you don’t have and appreciate what you do have

  • I honestly don’t think kids care. As long as you’re there spending time with them and having fun, whether that be at a local park or whatever they’re usually just happy that you’re spending time with them.
    They don’t see those pics as it’s your social media, only you do so don’t feel jealous!

  • I feel you! I used to go on 2-3 holidays every year, but since we’ve had our son & I no longer work, we haven’t gone on one family holiday together due to money. But I’m not jealous of anyone else, everyone has their own story. A few suggestions though; could you create your own little holiday at home? Have a themed dinner night, have a movie night, have a fancy 3 course dinner night, dress up day, make a scavenger hunt at home for your kids,you can do all of these on a tight budget. Another suggestion if you really want a holiday; is there something you can give up in order to save for one? Alcohol? Cigarettes? Takeaway? Cafe coffees? Gave a holiday account even if you only put $40 away each week it will add up in no time!! Go to a caravan park… pitch a tent. Or go camping!

  • We nev6had holidays as kids. Not even local. And it didn’t matter because my parents played with us. Board games. Card games. Indoor forts. Whatever. I remember they were THERE and that is far more valuable. Try and remember you are doing what’s right for your family.

  • Have you considered that the people taking these holidays really need the break as its been an incredibly stressful work year and having both parents work is really tough, maybe they need a wind down?
    we are a 2 working parent family and we are absolutely exhausted after an incredibly stressful year. We are going to the beach for 2 weeks and it will be the best thing ever just to not be at work.

  • That’s a hard one, it’s very hard not to feel jealous in that situation. One way would be to remove yourself from the thing that’s making you jealous- I.e. the pics on social media- just don’t look at them. Another would be making your own fun at home. We do a lot of camping adventures in our own state which is a lot more affordable and fun too. It’s not as glamorous as a resort but it’s still a holiday.

  • I just unfollow them on Facebook then I can’t get jealous .
    I’m still friends and can check in when I want to have a peek .
    Sometimes I wonder if they are really having fun if they have to post everything from breakfast until dinner .
    I only get a chance to holiday once a year..my kids have more fun at home .

  • I wish I had the answer as it would solve the same for me! We never did the big family holidays interstate or overseas – we wouldn’t afford it. Same boat now as an adult. It’s tough when brother in law & their family are well off and splurge on outings for their kids every (yep, every) weekend, snow trips every winter, overseas/interstate trips etc. I think as long as you can create happy memories for your own family, that’s the main thing.

Post you answer
Like Facebook page

LIKE MoM on Facebook

What is your answer to that question?
Would you like to include a photo?
No picture uploaded yet.
Please wait to see your image preview here before hitting the submit button.
Your MoM account

Lost your password?

Enter your email and a password below to post your answer and join MoM:

↥ Back to top

Thanks For Your Star Rating!

Would you like to add a written rating or just a star rating?

Write A Rating Just A Star Rating