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My son is 14 months old and he is getting very violent with certain people including myself but not his father. Always slapping me and others in the face or throwing things at us. After saying no firmly, he just looks at me and does it again. He seems to know what he is doing but continues to do it anyway… I have tried using different words and explaining that it hurts and its not nice but still nothing. Any advice would be great thanks


Posted by christine_janosevic, 22nd May 2014


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  • Just keep being firm and consistent. At his age pushing boundaries is the norm. He will eventually learn


  • Time outs if he does something wtong rouse at him if he does it again set him down alone with no toys and nothing to play with and leave him there for a few minutes no doubt he will cry and try to follow you but ignore the tears and put him back


  • You need to take him away from the situation he is in, he needs to learn that behaviour hurts and isn’t nice, so by taking him away from the fun, he will learn quickly it’s not on.


  • Time out whenever he does this. 2 minutes away from everyone. After the two minutes he has to say he is sorry or he goes back for another 2 minutes. You have to be consistent though. The first day doing this will be the hardest, but you have to stick to it once you start.


  • Be careful you’re not rewarding his behaviours by giving him more attention after he hits you. Sometimes kids do it for the attention they get even if it is your negative attention. Distraction and prevention are the best strategies but I realise these are not always possible.


  • explain that what he is doing is wrong and isolate and ignore


  • i would try taking something away that he likes and see how that goes


  • Taking him away from the situation, exclude him to show him what he has done is not acceptable..he will click very quickly that hitting people gets him removed from the fun environment


  • I like prevention and distraction rather than harsh words or even punishment and anger, it’s not always easy but children at your sons age can be distracted and if you can recognise the signs of when he starts to get angry or violent then you might be able to get in first and distract him?


  • There are a lot of tantrums at this age! So, let me get this straight: he’s 3/4 of a metre tall & slapping you in the face??? Is it while you’re carrying him? I’d hold his free hand while carrying him, like in a dance pose – which I do with my almost 15 m/o daughter so she doesn’t wobble me off balance. Distraction is the main thing. Clear away things to throw & give him things you don’t mind him throwing – like a balloon, inflatable books, soft toys. Good Luck.


  • maybe you need to also change the tone of your voice, so he knows your angry at him


  • He is not too young to be told no, and to receive discipline. While he probably wouldn’t be willing to sit on a “naughty mat” for a couple of minutes, putting him into a cot or playpen (with no toys) for a couple of minutes will show him that there are consequences to doing something when Mummy says no.


  • I would put him in time out once he’s done it don’t talk to him just pick him up sit him in time out set a clock for say 5 minutes so a alarm goes off and each time he does it just keep going with the time out. I know its hard but he will keep doing it if he gets a reaction from you hence why i say just pick him up without talking to him
    Good luck


  • I used a port a cot as a time out corner, only for a minute, but those behavious dimished within 2 weeks of doing this with my son. Smacking back only reinforces the “well if you do it, why cant i?”


  • If he hits, hit him back when he does it and tell him no.


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