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My hubby goes to his mates every second week for a day (12hrs plus). The only time I get away from him & my lovely child is food shopping (& even then they often come along). I need time out!! How do you do it/schedule it in? And what do you do? I can’t afford to get my hair done/massage/manicure as we’re on a tight budget.

Posted anonymously, 1st July 2014

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  • My husband is actually really great about this: you need to try to engage your hubby. Sometimes he “locks” me in the bedroom with a book and a cup of tea and keeps the kids away for half an hour. Other inexpensive ideas are going to the library, having coffee with a friend, join a craft group.

  • Could you maybe organi├če something with the wives/girlfriends of your partners mates? Could be goid fun if you all got together once in a while.

  • Im always with my kids too even i dont find me time in shopping or gardening as i find them like i dont have a choice it has to be done. I now read a book after my kids go to bed. I make a nice cuppa and play relaxing music quietly. I find it hard to find me time. Can you go for a walk or run when your husband gets home?

  • My husband (who is very understanding) tries to take the older kids out for an hour or two on the weekend during the little one’s nap time, so I can have a little time to myself.

  • Every night from 8pm and when bub is asleep I will take him to the shops with me. One problem however is that not all fitting rooms are big enough to cater for a pram.

  • not really – my ‘me’ time usually consists of as you said grocery shopping, studying, running errands, cleaning the house, and preparing food for them when they get home. It never ends….

  • I totally understand. I struggle to find me time as I separated from my husband and now a single mum. My daughter has some issues due to being born at 27 weeks. My me time is when she is in bed or at school. It can be hard to find that balance. Maybe talk with your hubby and tell him how you feel. It doesnt mean you dont love them

  • when I work, its my break from the kids lol

  • Me time is an essential for sanity, day care, find a fun child care centre that you are happy with and your child likes, have a set day everyweek that your child goes to ‘school’ and you will find with benefits most people pay very little and it is great socialization for your child, and it gives you time to do anything you want to, shop, house work, sleep, it is amazing how quickly the time will go and you will wonder how you got on without your time, you will also be a better mum long term for it, I recall once putting my 3 in day care and going home and doing all my housework, I had a clean house and all the washing done, dinner cooked all for the period it took me to drive to the child care centre, but I felt awesome and accomplished. it actually made the rest of the week so much better. do it.

  • In the evening, from around 9 pm onwards.. that’s time for me. It has been this way for ages. I read, watch something on tv…

  • I don’t get much time out, but that’s partly because I’ve been I’ll and can’t always drive. Some inexpensive suggestions: get together with girlfriends. Go to a library for a quiet read. Join a craft group. See if a TAFE or beauty school near you needs people to practice on ( they usually only let the advanced students loose, so you’re pretty safe).

  • We have a family daycare lady, it’s $7 an hour plus we get 75% off that with all the centrelink childcare rebate stuff. Maybe try and find something similar just once a fortnight to just relax at home with a movie for a few hours :) Or if that’s not a possibility…. Wake up one morning when your hubby is home and just say “alright, i’m off! Me time today” and just leave :P I did that once haha now I think my hubby is a bit more understanding! He’ll just pop out for say 2 hours or if he goes away for any longer he checks in to see how things are :)

  • I don’t have me time, but I’m ok with that. I feel like I chose to be a mum, therefore I need gone there for my child. Mind you, those reins might loosen as bub gets a bit older.

  • Do the same as your hubby. On the alternate week go spend time with your friends or just be by yourself. If you don’t want to go out then send hubby out with kids or have a day of rest and tell your kids that its dads day to be mum lol.

  • Every night! Once kids are in bed (7pm), I have the rest of the night to do what I want. Usually its study but taking that on was my choice and my hubby uses this time to play his computer games if he’s home (he works till late). I also have every Thursday as daughter is at school and its the one day my son goes to day care. I do my groceries on this day and treat myself to a nice coffee. My hubby works split shifts, so when he comes home, I also go to my Curves gym and do my 30min workout. I do this 3-4 days a week. I get quite a lot of ‘me’ time, I think its really important to schedule this time in.

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