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I have a beautiful 2 and a half year old boy and he is the centre of my universe. My issue is I’m 30 weeks pregnant with a little girl and I’ve tried explaining that there’s a baby in mummys belly and its our baby (mummy’s baby, daddy’s baby and kaidem’s baby) but he just shuts down screams ‘no’ and runs away.. I’m worried when the baby gets here he’s going to have a negative reaction. He is usually so loving and caring and loves all babies, but those babies go away.. any advice and tips how to handle this would be greatly appreciated :)

Posted by jessicakaiden, 31st March 2014

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  • when the new baby is born, get your 2.5 year old a gift from the baby.

  • Don’t force it. If you push too hard, your 2 1/2 yo will push back harder. Just keep casually mentioning the baby, eg we will be painting the room for baby etc. I’m sure once she arrives, it will be perfect

  • I read there’s a house in mummy’s tummy. At the end of the day, the 1st born is interested for a bit and then the sibling rivalry sets in when they realise this blob in the corner of the room taking up mummy’s time isn’t going away. I think my 1st born actually said something about taking her sister back to the hospital. But that phase passed as they all do

  • How are things going? I hope your son has adjusted

  • Try not to get upset by his reaction. Once bub is here he’ll be better able to understand.

  • You could try a baby doll for him or perhaps take him to meet some new mothers and their little babies, its hard but I have heard if baby turns up with plenty of gifts for big brothers that can be persuaded!

  • Ensure you give him lots of attention when the baby first arrives. I used to have special toys for my toddlers when I was busy breastfeeding my newborn, these toys only came out when I was breast feeding. My newborn also gave my toddlers a present they were all wanting when he first arrived.

  • stay positive, im sure once your bub arrives he will be excited :)

  • Just stay positive and include him in everything I’m sure it will all work out love Goodluck.

  • He will be fine once bub gets here, and to soften the blow have a special present from bub to him ready at the hospital

  • once the baby is born and you include him, he will be fine and love your new baby also

  • It is hard for them to understand when they can’t see a baby, when the baby arrives things will be different, make sure you have a present for him to give to baby, also a present from baby to him make a special bond straight away, involve in everything, changing, feeding also helps, don’t stress as they pick up on it.

  • Don’t be to worried, once the baby is born he will change his mind. Just make sure you include him and get him involved with helping out with the new baby.

  • I think it will all work out

  • The book ‘There’s a house inside my mummy’ helped my 2 yr old understand her baby sister and she loved her when she was born :) (they are 4y and 2y now) here is a link too the book http://www.bookdepository.com/book/9781408315880?redirected=true&viewCountry=AU&selectCurrency=AUD&gclid=CKGPyeSl4b0CFVgmvQodYoAA_g

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