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My husband has a son from a previous marriage and he is married with kids. His wife has put a gift up for sale on FB that we gave their child, we are both on FB too. They usually never thank us for a gift, unless we asked if it arrived and now this! I am very upset.. am I overreacting?


Posted by mom67754, 21st April 2015


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  • I would be upset too. Just the fact they don’t even acknowledge you sent it or let you know it was Rd dived, then they put it on Facebook to sell. Not nice at all


  • To not say thank-you l believe is so rude and then to sell it where you might see it is a no no.


  • I agree with coastalkaryn. You did the right thing by giving a gift. You cannot control what happens after that.


  • YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FEEL UPSET, BUT IF YOU GIVE IT HAS TO BE UNCONDITIONALLY. LET IT GO AND ACCEPT THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE XXX


  • yep very rude. maybe just say that it looks exactly like what you gave them…..


  • It is upsetting that they would do this – particularly knowing you are on facebook too. However they are probably thinking it is there’s so they can do what they like with it – still doesn’t make it right. If it wasn’t going to be used I would have at least asked whether I could pass it on or sell it to buy something they did want. I certainly wouldn’t just put it up without saying anything. Maybe think twice about what you give to them in future – if it is just going to be sold or passed on don’t spend much on it.


  • That would upset me, too, you should comment on it and ask if you could purchase it for your grandchild, lol!


  • No think you have every right to feel upset at their glaring lack of tact! no more gifts would they receive from me! On other hand I have been known to give gifts I have received to others who I feel they would be more appropriate to use them..So giving you my two points of view, which though quite opposing comments. Feel there is a difference. However to thank people for things I do get (may be old fashioned) but think should be done, as given with good intentions. and deserves courtesy of a response . Hope this is of use too you. Borrowed below but feel it is appropriate


  • I don’t think you’re overacting at all. Not only has she on-sold a gift but she’s done it in a way you’re sure to find out about it. If i was you I’d comment on it with something like “If so and so didn’t like the gift we sent you should have said and i would have provided the receipt” Or “you’re selling it really cheap! I paid $x for it when i bought it for you.”
    She sounds very ungrateful.


  • I’m shocked. Not only for not thanking you but for selling your gift in Facebook, when you can clearly see it. Not nice at all! I don’t think you are overreacting, absolutely not. Next time I would just send a birthday card!


  • Its easy to say thanks when you hand the gift over that saves havig to do it later, but to let the world know you are selling it thats another thing. Just plain rude. If we usually recieve a git thats not to our liking we do sell it on ebay though. No one needs to know. Next time save yourself the effort of looking for a gift. Be honest and say i noticed the last gift i gave wasnt liked so i thought i would save you the effort of selling it so here.


  • The things I love my kids receiving are event gifts, depending on their age and location but something like a picnic, visit to the zoo or something they enjoy, could be a good idea.


  • Is she an idiot? No seriously, it’s one thing to regift on the sly but to post it over the Internet where the gift giver can see it is like a slap in the face! I’ve been give some things that weren’t to my taste for my daughter but I figure it’s not about me, it’s been given to her and put it away for her. Unless they are desperate for space or money I find this just plain rude and I’d want to clear the air with her. Maybe they bought the same thing themselves or had the same thing given to them by someone else? My sister never thanked me for the presents I gave her children so I’ve stopped now. We don’t have a good relationship and it’s not a nice place to be in


  • How terrible that they do not thank you. A simple thank you is never difficult. I agree that once a gift is given, it is their discretion what is done with it (even though it sucks that they have made it an obvious sale). I think keep your head held high knowing you have done the right thing. Maybe also ask in future if there is anything that the children need (that could be given as gifts eg pajamas etc) as they get older, money is always a winner!


  • I think it is awful that they never thank you but once you give a gift it is up to the receiver to decide what happens with it. There are many gifts we have received that I would love to sell because our house gets so filled up with stuff and the children don’t use everything or they get super overwhelmed. Is there a way you can check what the mother would like to receive for the child? Does the son come to your place often so the gift could be kept there?


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