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My husband has a son from a previous marriage and he is married with kids. His wife has put a gift up for sale on FB that we gave their child, we are both on FB too. They usually never thank us for a gift, unless we asked if it arrived and now this! I am very upset.. am I overreacting?

Posted by mom67754, 21st April 2015

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  • Sure isn’t nice not to receive a thank you ! Are you sure they haven’t received a duplicate ? How old are their children ? I would probably just ask “didn’t you like the present ?” and maybe chat with their children what they would like to have ?

  • How old is the child? If it’s an older kid, they may have asked for it to be “swapped” with something they’d prefer. Or maybe it was a duplicate item. If the child is younger, I think you should ask his ex-wife about it.

  • Are you sure it’s the exact one you gave them? Could they have received duplicates?

  • I would be upset too. Just the fact they don’t even acknowledge you sent it or let you know it was Rd dived, then they put it on Facebook to sell. Not nice at all

  • To not say thank-you l believe is so rude and then to sell it where you might see it is a no no.

  • I agree with coastalkaryn. You did the right thing by giving a gift. You cannot control what happens after that.


  • yep very rude. maybe just say that it looks exactly like what you gave them…..

  • It is upsetting that they would do this – particularly knowing you are on facebook too. However they are probably thinking it is there’s so they can do what they like with it – still doesn’t make it right. If it wasn’t going to be used I would have at least asked whether I could pass it on or sell it to buy something they did want. I certainly wouldn’t just put it up without saying anything. Maybe think twice about what you give to them in future – if it is just going to be sold or passed on don’t spend much on it.

  • That would upset me, too, you should comment on it and ask if you could purchase it for your grandchild, lol!

  • No think you have every right to feel upset at their glaring lack of tact! no more gifts would they receive from me! On other hand I have been known to give gifts I have received to others who I feel they would be more appropriate to use them..So giving you my two points of view, which though quite opposing comments. Feel there is a difference. However to thank people for things I do get (may be old fashioned) but think should be done, as given with good intentions. and deserves courtesy of a response . Hope this is of use too you. Borrowed below but feel it is appropriate

  • I don’t think you’re overacting at all. Not only has she on-sold a gift but she’s done it in a way you’re sure to find out about it. If i was you I’d comment on it with something like “If so and so didn’t like the gift we sent you should have said and i would have provided the receipt” Or “you’re selling it really cheap! I paid $x for it when i bought it for you.”
    She sounds very ungrateful.

  • I’m shocked. Not only for not thanking you but for selling your gift in Facebook, when you can clearly see it. Not nice at all! I don’t think you are overreacting, absolutely not. Next time I would just send a birthday card!

  • Its easy to say thanks when you hand the gift over that saves havig to do it later, but to let the world know you are selling it thats another thing. Just plain rude. If we usually recieve a git thats not to our liking we do sell it on ebay though. No one needs to know. Next time save yourself the effort of looking for a gift. Be honest and say i noticed the last gift i gave wasnt liked so i thought i would save you the effort of selling it so here.

  • The things I love my kids receiving are event gifts, depending on their age and location but something like a picnic, visit to the zoo or something they enjoy, could be a good idea.

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