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At first my stance on another child was no way jose. Now I see myself being not so quick to dismiss it in my head. I am already fortunate to have a gorgeous 3 year old boy with my husband. How do people go with the leap from 1 to 2 kids when you’re significant other is away from 6am -6.30pm on a weekday. I know i Could be in worse situations IE Fly in Fly Out hubby, but as I don’t have my parents or in laws in close proximity it makes me a little anxious. We also live in a small 2 bedroom house (In a fantastic location in Melbourne) so that’s also been another reason as I feel the house is going to become to small.

Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they have overcome things/anxieties.

Posted anonymously, 5th December 2015

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  • I’m so curious to know what you and your husband decided on.

  • I didn’t have too many issues. Of course your work load increases along with the overwhelming tiredness of all parents. But once you get into the swing of things, life plods along ok

  • I found the transition from 1 to 2 kids easy. There is a 19 month age gap between my babies. Second time around I had a bit more of an idea of what I was doing, not just winging it. My almost 2 year old is also a great help. We try keeps her involved as much as possible so she doesn’t feel secluded. There definitely is a witching hour tho, they both always need me as I’m busy cooking tea. So I have just learnt to prepare as much as possible during the day so that I can give the kids the attention they need come tea cooking time.

  • I too am wondering what you decided.

  • The first six or eight weeks will be hard, but then you’ll settle into new ways of doing things and it won’t be too bad.

  • I see this is an old question. How did you go with your second child ?

  • Well….you are already in child mode..Take note of the handing down of things for new bub. i gave new bub ger sisters pram. lots of tears! Be considerate of feelings of older sibling. Be fair. But every life is a blessing! i love having two x

  • I think you just end up coping! Once you get in a rhythm again you find that it’s not such a big deal although juggling 2 kids is more time consuming.

  • i think that you adapt very quickly to your new circumstances. a bit more work but hey, it is worth it. do what you are ready for and what is best for your family. good luck!

  • I have 2 boys (2 & 4 years) & bub 3 on the way. I found Having the 1st more stressful than having the 2nd! The 2nd time around you know what your doing & have experience dealing with stuff. There were a couple of things I did to make it a bit easier… 1- teach my eldest independent play so he didn\’t feel he needed my attention all the time (he was 2yrs at the time), 2- I put on a dvd & make a snack & drink for toddler so I could feed bub in peace, 3- I curbed jealousy by involving my eldest in playing with the baby, cooking dinner & reading extra stories (the 1 on 1 time & feeling useful made him happy). We live in a small unit & my boys share a room, it\’s a bit squashy but we go for walks & take advantage of enclosed parks like Bunnings to run off extra energy. I hope this helps :)

  • We have 2 boys (4 and 2) and we found it hard going from one to two – I think more so when I would look back and think “things were so much easier with just one”. But they are now getting to the stage where they play together which is awesome to watch. I always knew if I was going to have kids I wanted to have 2 so they could have each other as they grew up. I come from a family of 3 and am grateful that I have my brothers – I know that if I ever needed anything they would be there for me and I wanted that for my kids.

  • I’ve been talking to a lot of friends who have 2+ kids lately as we’re thinking of trying for our 2nd baby next year. They say that going from 1-2 is a lot easier than it seems and most had more trouble going from 2-3. I think having them fairly close together would be harder (just my opinion). My daughter is also 3 and very independent so I think once a baby comes along that she will be an awesome help!

  • It’s very normal to be anxious. I think once you’ve had one child you kind if know what to expect so it becomes easier but remember each child is different. I have four and hubby works from 7am-7pm so I know it can be hard but I’ve always wanted a big family. I think you should speak to hubby and talk and decide together. Good luck.

  • I found having two was easy but it was harder when I went to three.

  • I was in your shoes once and I now have a 5 year old girl and almost 2 year old boy. I’m so very glad I did have a second child though. For me, I found it difficult to learn how to do things and manage two children at once but it was in the same way I had to learn to manage to do things with one child initially. After a while you get your rhythm and things become easier. The hardest thing I learned (again) was that you can’t control everything with children, and then things became a little easier. It’s lovely watching them play together (it balances out the fighting!). They do love each other though and I’m glad they will both have someone watching their backs in this world.

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