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I am going through hell with my 17 yo daughter. She split with her boyfriend a few months ago, and is taking it out on me. I don’t know how to handle it. Any suggestions on coping with the situation?


Posted anonymously, 17th December 2013

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  • My daughter is 16yrs old and is processing a split up too. We don’t have a hell of a time with her(they all express themselves differently), but she has been showing symptoms of depression and anxiety. She’s currently receiving some support via Headspace, which is government funded.

  • I would just show compassion and be there for her and maybe spoil her with a favourite meal and loving gestures. She’s probably heartbroken.

  • Affairs of the heart in someone not mature enough to even really know about affairs of the heart. All you can do is wait it out

  • Give her time. Her emotions are probably not meant hurtful towards you but as you are closest to her she will use it to try to push people away. Her anger is just fear that is covered up. Patience is the key but make sure you are not a punching bag.

  • Just ride it out. Life with teenagers is always a roller coaster ride

  • A break up is hard at any age, but being 17 she probably feels like the world is ending. Be supportive of her & let her know you are there for her. Don’t take anything she says to heart, she’s emotional & hormonal & these feelings will pass soon enough.
    Take her out on a Mum-Daughter day, maybe to a spa or to get a facial & manicure done, something to make her feel nice, & you also.
    Talk to her about the break up if she wants to talk, if she doesn’t don’t push it, let her know that you’re there if & when she feels ready to.
    Best of luck. It’s not easy being a teenager.

  • It is good reading the comments and interest to this!

  • I wish I could give you better advice, but I sought professional help from a social worker to deal with my daughter. I did get some good ideas but also felt like they didn’t fully understand my position.

  • Just try and be there for her, and don’t react to harsh comments. It’ll pass

  • How did you get on with your daughter? hoping you had some luck :)

  • If she attacks you verbally ask her what her problem is talk to her become her friend someone she can trust

  • its a hard time to deal with, i hope she has been feeling better

  • Might be she don’t know how to share her feeling with you. Just need time and more patient to deal with your daughter. Hope everything ok.

  • she is 17 just ignore her antics and tell her if she cant speak nice then not to speak at all, she wants to be an adult and to start acting like one

  • i would be honest and tell her her actions are childish and hurtful

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