I try to limit it to weekends but she on it after school, I work nites and she’s on it when she is meant to be in bed but you get the fights and tamper taints from her, takes hours to just get her off it, I try to hide all tablets so she can not just go on it, but finds them, I am so tied of fighting this battle, this morning it was 4.30am when she wanted to get on utube, as soon as she wakes up on a Saturday to night time and Sunday as well. I have tried to take them off her to have her yelling and hitting to her throwing items.. hiding them does not work she sneak on to the tv in my room.. any help little or big.. thanks Nicole


Posted by Nicole Passalaqua, 13th August 2019


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  • My daughter is exactly the same, she cannot go a day without her youtube fix. Due to this, and other technology related issues, I have taken her phone, ipad and laptop off her so the only youtube she can use is the TV, which thankfully she can’t use to reply or to comment on anything.

    This addiction is like any addiction, when you take away the item of addiction, they go through withdrawals, therefore the anger, sulking, screaming, etc. I must say she is back to my happy, nice, friendly child once she gets over her tantrums and actually starts doing the things she loved before, like reading, art, making things, etc.


  • You might have to take the tablets with you. Hope this is just a passing phase, thinking of you xo


  • I think you will have to put up with the tantrums. Try giving it as a reward.


  • Sorry to hear that…I can feel your pain. When I was going through a difficult pregnancy my toddler was hooked up on you tube.he would watch tv for more than hours.
    Once the baby arrived I involved him in baby care and started going out for walk together.he can now do little tasks around the house and I reward him every now and then.we read books together and go to the library.i even enrolled him in sports class for few months.
    These days I let him watch his favourite show for 30 minutes if he does the reading with me otherwise no TV. he can throw tantrums and he knows if muma said something then she really means business…


  • Bit hard to offer advice no knowing what age the child is, maybe get off the unlimited data plan and go prepaid with limited data? Sounds like an addiction though and maybe you need to seek professional help, bit like the gaming addicts who are now seeking help. Best of luck.


  • I think the advise you have been given is sound. I would take control and use the parental block. Get her to see it is something that has to be earned rather than an entitlement. Good luck.


  • As hard as it is (tantrums etc), you will need to limit her access or it will only get worse. With strict control, the tears will eventually stop, hopefully! Good luck!


  • Thank you all so much, I am trying all the ideas, We have used the time limit on watching utube I set the oven timer before I go to work and give her an hour to watch only. I am so dishearted how far this had gone, but I am really thankful I had some where to ask for help and see how others have handle it.. Thanks Nicole


  • I am having the same problem with my child who is 4, what works well for me to try and get her off the iPad is having a visual routine board so she knows what we have to do during the day and leading up to bedtime. A reward chart goes really well with this too. If you want a picture of mine let me know, my first night using my routine board went amazingly!
    If she refuses to put the iPad down then I take it off her, I put it up high where she definitely cannot get to it and I stick with saying no.
    No means no and children are not the bosses of their parents.
    Every time I have to take the iPad away believe me it isn’t pretty at all, tantrums, hissy fits, the best thing I have found is sitting with the child and offering them some one on one time to calm down.
    And when they are calm it helps to do an activity together like colouring in.
    In the long run it is what is best for the child, tantrums are hard but you cannot give in to the child,
    I have done triple p parenting online which helped me soooo much it isn’t funny.!! I recommend this program to all parents.
    Give it a try :)

    Also, my daughter was refusing to eat dinner and only wanted to watch toys on YouTube and I had no idea what to do, it was causing fights with family and general chaos at night time.
    So I googled the supernanny and watched a few videos on how to get children to eat their dinner, and now, she sits at the table until she eats her breakfast lunch and dinner.

    I hope I have helped in some way


  • We chose to disable youTube for our 9yr old, because she totally continuously misused it. Now the only time she gets to watch is under our supervision when we connect my hubs computer to the television.


  • As tiring and frustrating as it is you must persist in enforcing the rules you have for her. No always means no – tantrums and hitting should result in additional consequences (I would start introducing daily bans on usage for a response like this). Times where she’s not permitted to be on YouTube either have restricted access to technology or the modem switched off and hidden out of reach. Parenting is hard but you are the adult here and being consistent is the only way your child will understand what rules are and that they must be followed.


  • I’m sorry I don’t have any solutions for you. I understand this is like an addiction and has to be treated like one, but I don’t know what I would do.


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