just wondering who does the bulk of the housework in your home – is it you or is it more evenly shared (we don’t have any paid help and I do close to 100percent)


Posted anonymously, 19th December 2015


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  • The longer we’re together the more I make my husband do.


  • I am staying at home mom but have a newborn and toddler to look after all the time, so not much spare time left.
    I do all the house cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking… My hubby is responsible for the garden, backyard and the house/building maintenance.
    I am very scared to think how life is going to be when I go back to work next year, how am I going to manage all this and still have time to my kids?!


  • I am a stay at home mum, so I do majority of the house work! My hubby might do the dishes on his day off if I’m lucky!! Haha if I go back to work the house work will be more shared! :-)


  • We share it as we both work, including washing the cars. He does the lawn though. I do the house cleaning – I try to do each room once a week. The kids are supposed to put their toys, books etc. at the end of the day when they have finished with them. They have to be reminded sometimes. The eldest is supposed to keep his room tidy and put his clean washing away – sometimes with supervision. He would rather be outside playing. The youngest one is still too short to put the bulk of his clothes away. He does try to help sometimes though. He surprised me the other day. He was trying to clean the toilet with the brush after he used it. He did a good effort at it too, and he is only just 3 y.o. He has obviously been watching how I do it. Just need to show him how to shake the surplus water off his hands over the hand basin, not on the floor before he wipes them on the towel. We share most of the household chores including laundry, cooking, homework supervision, school runs, taking them to organised activities e.g wimming essons and gym. Shift work makes for varied routines. Sharing the load allows more quality family togetherness time.


  • Depending on the age of your kids, you can get them to help you too. If you have a partner perhaps you can discuss with them what they could do to help out around the house. It might just be watching the kids for a bit, or taking the washing in off the line. Every little bit helps.


  • i do the most but the kids help clean up their toys and hubby will help me with things.


  • I do almost 100% of the housework (whilst also working full time and looking after kids and being pregnant). I would love the division of labour to split a bit more evenly (or even just a little) so I am currently negotiating with hubbie to take on just one or two jobs (baby steps…)


  • I do all of it but I don’t always do it in one day so it doesn’t feel like such a chore and I try to find ways to make it easier. i find that if I clean the shower while I’m having a shower, it doesn’t feel like its taking time out of my day. I dust another day and then do something else the next so I feel like I’m never really doing more than half an hour of housework a day. I know people who have cleaners that charge around $30 an hour but from what I understand they just do a surface clean. If they dust they don’t remove items they dust around etc so to me they really aren’t a great help.


  • I do most of the house work but if l’m busy my partner will do for me!


  • Maybe make up a chore roster if you are unhappy with the division of labour.


  • I wish I could say that everyone does their fair share but realistically I do about 95% of the housework. The kids are meant to keep their rooms clean and do the dishes each night but it is pretty hit and miss. Hubby works huge hours so I don’t expect much from him.


  • i have 5 kids and i do all the housework… as long as my kids keep their rooms tidy, do well at school and are doing the right thing with their lives (i,e, study, get good grades, work or actively look for work) then i dont ‘make them’ do chores. I have teenagers mainly but even when they were younger i didnt make them do chores… when i ask them to help they help but theres no set tasks ever…


  • Yes i do most of it. I also find it easier to do it myself most times otherwise the housework is only partially done so i end up having to finish it off anyway.


  • im a stay at home mum so i do all of it other than the mowing of the lawn. But if i worked he would be expected that he did a lot more than what he does. He use to do it before we had kids and i would be expecting it again when i go back to work…..


  • Everyone pitches in and does the housework.


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