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My daughters father-in-law has terminal cancer, he’s dieing in hospital now. I truly don’t know how to support her and her family as we live 100 kms away.We are on the pension and don’t have spare cash to see her. So hard on the phone listening to my girl crying her heart out, trying to be strong for her man. He is an only child and they are now responsible to look after his affairs and his mother who is a alcoholic. I don’t know where to┬ástart? Any advice would be welcome.

Posted by deborah_osborne, 11th May 2015

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  • Oh no, what a superbly difficult time for you and your daughter. So there’s no chance you could bus or train to visit her? If not, the next best thing is phone calls, just be that someone to vent to, it helps

  • Sometimes just being there is the best thing. Just let her know you are there

  • Just being there, listening to her, letting her vent….it all helps. You might not be there physically but just bring there at all is sometimes the best

  • I am so sorry to hear this.
    Your poor daughter must be devastated.
    You can only do what you have been doing, support her.
    Being there for her, even if it’s only over the phone, will mean so much to her.
    Having someone to turn to can make a great difference & she will understand that it’s hard for you being so far away.
    Offer for her to come visit if she needs a break, send her a letter letting her know you’re thinking of her & her husband.
    Your poor daughter must be feeling very stressed.
    She is very lucky to have such a caring Mum.
    Wishing you all the best.

  • just be there for her like you have been!

  • So sorry to hear of this terrible situation. I am sure your phone calls and her knowing you are there to listen is more helpful than you know. It must be hard living so far away but maybe suggest they come and stay for a weekend or holiday whenever they like? Maybe send your daughter some nice flowers or even a card full of lovely words. It all helps in these rough times. All the best.

  • I’m so sorry. That must be hard.
    Let your daughter cry on the phone, let her talk. That will help her so much

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