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Hi there. I have 3 kids; Mr 7, Miss 6 and Mr 4. Miss 6 is giving me a hard time with my new boyfriend. They’ve known him for around 2 months as my friend, and have over the last few weeks have I mentioned that I really like him.
As I was beginning to let them know that, she says to me “We already know he’s your boyfriend! ”
Apparently their father and grandmother searched me on fb and asked the kids who was in my photos. When told he was my friend, they informed them that he must be my boyfriend.
She gets stroppy with him, mad at her brothers for embracing him, and worse started screaming in the car yesterday, I asked him to pull over so we could get out of the car (they just came back from their fathers).
My bf wants to be a part of the family, the boys and I want him to be a part of the family, but my Miss keeps making us all feel uncomfortable. I have tried all the PPP and PME tactics I’ve learned, but nothing works.

I can’t let her run my life, I can’t stand her acting/feeling like this, and I can’t stand the thought of this loving, considerate, giving man being treated like crap for no reason. I just feel so drained.
He hasn’t stayed over while the kids have been home, and we haven’t even kissed infront of them, so it’s not like I’m in her face.

Posted by anon, 26/06/2013

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  • It’s early days when you know your new boyfriend only for 2 months !
    Children love to see their mom and dad together and to be united as a family. Sounds like your wee girl is struggling with the fact that her dad is being replaced by a new boyfriend.
    You write you can’t stand her acting/feeling like this, but only with understanding your wee girl and with patience and love you can help her. Make sure to spend enough time with her, play & listen so there is place & space to express her feelings

  • Such a hard question to answer. It would be hard for Miss 6 to be watching another man replace her dad, also hard for you being stopped from moving on with your life. Maybe Miss 6 could live with dad for a while? If not, I guess you just gotta be patient and keep trying

  • Time is the only healer here. Don’t let her dictate too much, but still be aware and considerate of her feelings. Hopefully one day she will come to accept him. For everyone’s sake, I hope this is true

  • Hope you have found a way to get her to behave better

  • How tough, hope its all sorted now

  • how is it going now?

  • Hope some of the answers have been useful

  • It is difficult and I hope things worked out for you.

  • How are things going now?

  • How is everything now? :)

  • I hope you have found some helpful suggestions here.

  • Hope things are better for you now.

  • I figure this scenario is pretty normal, my friend has 3 daughters and in her second relationship the eldest daughter was the one to give her new man a hard time, but now they have had more time it is also ok and the daughter is fine with him.

  • How are you going now. Are things getting better .

  • Have u had any progress? Anything got better

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