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I have found out that a girl likes my son. I haven’t done the birds and the bees talk. What educational app or website would be best to watch? An easy picture book perhaps? I also need to do the talk with my daughter too especially when she gets her period.
Is there a girls gift box I could purchase to give to my daughter so she’s ready for when her period comes? What do girls carry their pads/tampons in for primary school and high school?

Posted anonymously, 21st June 2018

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  • You don’t mention what age your girl is ?
    We went with our kids to a special information night organised at school in year 3/4 of primary school. My daughter got a gift pack given in year 6 primary school.
    Besides this we never avoided the talk with our kids and answered the questions they had in an age appropriate way.

  • Where did I come from is always a handy book. When my eldest daughter got older we just talked about it more in conversation.

  • The books I mentioned should be available at your local library if you don’t fancy buying them. Otherwise Kmart had The Amazing True Story of How Babies are Made until recently, and the others I’ve just seen are on Amazon or Booktopia. Good luck!

  • Libra girl used to send out a free sample pack in a fun gift pack with information about periods and feminine hygiene. I’m sure if you google they still have this available. Other brands like U by Kotex will have similar I’m sure.

    Otherwise, for carrying these things when she’s at school, a small makeup bag or a pencil case would be the way to go. It’s small and discrete, and depending on what she wears to school she may be able to just pop it in her pocket. My mum put mine in a white paper bag, which did not work lol.

    Bookwise, there’s The Amazing True Story of How Babies are Made by Fiona Katauskas. Obviously it depends on her age because it does depict intercourse and you may not be ready for that bit yet. Otherwise I remember reading “where did I come from?” and “what’s happening to me?” One talks about sex and babies, and the other talks puberty and body changes.

  • Also when I was a teenager I carried my spare pads etc in a smallish makeup bag that I kept in the bottom of my backpack. Doesn’t need to be something huge just discreet.

  • U by Kotex have information on their website about puberty and menstration. Could be a good tool for your daughter? Also she can order samples of any of their products (tampons, pads etc) she would like to try.

  • Ideally it’s best to start talking to kids about their bodies (and those of the opposite sex) from as early as they take notice or are curious and lead into talking about reproduction from there. That way talking about it doesn’t have to be a big scary formal talk. If that hasn’t been the case, I’d just say keep it as informal and natural as possible. If you’re not embarrassed about it, there’s less chance they will be too. Flick through some books at the bookshop as there are a few good ones around and you’ll probably have more of an idea which ones will suit your kids. Also use tv shows, songs, books etc as natural conversation starters eg pointing out respectful or disrespectful relationships.

  • I would suggest the sanitary companies website.

  • Libraries and bookshops should also have resources and links that they should be able to help you link to. I find these places fabulous for resources and links. They often do searches online for me! :)

  • Your local bookshop and local library will have a wealth of resources on this topic which are age appropriate. The staff should be able to assist you with finding the right resources. Many of the sanitary companies have websites that are age appropriate and easy to use and good for the right demographic. Maybe take a look at these too.

  • Some schools do sex education classes so your daughter may already know more than you think she does. Some schools use DVDs. Even some Catholic Schools do this. I know one girl who has a starter pack in her school bag which she also takes with her on sleepovers etc. You could put pads inside a large pencil case for her to keep in her school bag. If she has a length of time away from home she can put extra in her case. I actually had spare ones in my school satchel in a large flattish toiletry bag.
    Maybe ask the boy’s school if they have a “responsible” DVD for boys. Do you have a responsible male who can talk to your son….and make him aware of the consequences if he gets a girl pregnant. I know both male and female are responsible to use plenty of protection but not all think about it on the spur of the moment.

  • Above all else be honest. Use correct terminology so there is no confusion and be prepared to answer any questions they may have. You may be surprised with what they already know or at least suspect xx

  • Libragirl is a lovely site indeed !

  • Good question about the ‘sex education’. School had some parent/child sessions about this for us. I wonder what your school might be doing? that might help nudge things along for you and your son/daughter. For Girls you can get free stuff/samples and information about menstruation from Libra https://www.libragirl.com/ to help answer the questions they might have. Also forums for them to ask other girls their secrets!

  • Talking about sex goes gradually.
    When my kids were still little and asked questions, I never avoid them, but always answered on their level. For example when my daughter was 5 or so, she would play withe the dolls and pretend she was pregnant for a whole day and breastfeed the doll. I used these situations to talk about our bodies and how it works.
    My daughter got a gift pack with pads and tampons at the interrelate session @ primary school. Interrelate sessions are very good as well.

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